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Do What You Love to Do Interview:: Gil Gillies

September 15 Dawn

Gil Gillies Website Designer and Printer West Lothian

Meet Gil Gillies, a (now) self employed web designer and digital designer.

Gil has lived life in so many career outfits. We first met in 1995, when we both had the label ‘Youth Worker’ slapped to our backs. Fun days. Hang about on Facebook long enough and you eventually catch up with people who you haven’t seen in a very long time and connections rekindle.

Gil is passionate about equality, inclusion, human rights and the personal and social development of young people.  And he has managed to bring all his values together in his current role: delivering services to small charities, groups and businesses who also share similar world views.

He had an upbringing in Belfast in the 1970’s, his first job was as a milk boy (yes, milk used to be delivered to front doors), then he undertook an apprenticeship in the world famous shipyard. He then became a traveller, eventually ended up on a very small island of the West Coast of Scotland working as a lay preacher.

Most of his adult life has been youth work/community work in some form, which seems (he says) an unlikely story for someone who now owns and runs a wee print and digital design company, in a wee town in West Lothian, UK.

T H E  I N T E R V I E W

What does doing what you love to do mean to you?

‘Doing What I Love To Do‘ is freedom.

It’s a waking dream.

Making a living from CREATIVITY is a deeply (read: deeply) satisfactory employment.

Not to get too cosmic about it, doing what I love makes my soul sing. You know when you are in the bath and you hum and find that perfect acoustic spot where everything resonates and vibrates around you? That’s how doing what I love to do feels to me.

It’s doing it my way.

It’s not about money. For me it’s an energy thing, a ‘help people along’ thing.

Yes, that ‘wee print and digital design company’ in the West Lothian village of Pumpherston, is more than just a pretty fontface. The why is the main deal. Being able to use all my Website and Design skills and experience to help groups, business, and individuals who are making their difference really is, getting even more cosmic…bliss.

How are you living your life doing what you love to do?

For now my work includes design for print, printing services, design and development for the web and search engine optimisation. And to be able to manage my work around the needs of my wife, her career and I get the privilege of growing my lovely daughter every day.

What has been your career journey to this point?

In my first life Act I was a Marine Engineer. At 21 I decided to travel and spent the next several years in communities in Ireland and on Iona. I returned to youth work in 1995. Spent many years as a Youth and Community Worker before eventually getting frustrated with some local authorities and voluntary sector agencies, so I decided to work for myself.

The frustration taught me a huge lesson, you have to do what you say you are going to do (life, career, business) and not write one thing on the ‘tin’ and do the exact opposite.

Tweet this: “Do what you say you are going to do and not write one thing on the ‘tin’ and do the exact opposite.”

How did you make doing what you love to do happen?

I’ve always had the idea to work for myself but never quite had the confidence and self determination. Eventually my planets aligned. I had a career wife and a daughter. It suited all our needs for me to do this. The prospect excited me greatly and here I am.

When did you know what it was?

As a young youth worker In the 80’s I often needed 50 of those fliers and 10 of those posters, for one event or another. It was impossible to get any print run small enough to be able to afford it.  The “Gestetner” was horrifically restrictive with the print having the personality of a church newsletter. PC’s and Macs weren’t available for us all (yet) and so the basic skills of design and ‘cut and paste’ were learned on a dodgy photocopier.

Before Digital The Gestetner
Before Digital – The Gestetner

As time went on, better techniques where developed, contacts made and computers became available and soon the print world became possible for me.

When I realised that I could design and produce anything I wanted, with only my imagination as a restriction, then, that was the moment when I knew what it was.

It seems to me that I have been growing this seed for longer than I was even aware.

Can you share the good, the bad and the ugly when you made the decision do what you love to do?

OK, first comes the self doubt. Then the realisation that everything comes down to me. I am totally responsible. Then I realised that working for myself is actually two jobs.  Not only does the work need done but you need to go out and find it in the first place.

When self employed you are always ‘the business’, you work on your own merit and the buck always, always, stops with you.

I had the worries and fears of ‘would I be good enough‘ and ‘do I really know what I’m doing?’ but the excitement and the chase of the dream pushed me passed my fears.

What were the biggest hurdles, challenges and barriers you had to overcome?

In my case, setting up was fairly easy for me. That was a good bit. However hurdles:  moving goal posts, cash flow, getting the work at the beginning.

Challenges and barriers though are there to be overcome; they are like little mini-tests. How far are you willing to go?

I’d say these were necessary hurdles for me. They tempered my mental-metal. As my old journeyman would say these things let you see the cut of your jib.

What was easy? A surprise?

On the cosmic scale of easiness setting up and maintaining this business was about 60-70% easy. I’d be doing this as a sort of hobby for a few years before I jumped. It has it’s peaks and troughs. The big surprise for me was that I can actually make a good living doing what I love. Financially and cosmically.

What led you to this love specifically?

Freedom to create.

What would be your top 5 pieces of advice, or suggestions, words of wisdom you would like to share?

  • Keep the faith. What ye give out ye shall receive threefold.
  • Just because you build it doesn’t mean they will come – you have to tell people.
  • Resist the temptation to run at it.
  • Dotting the i’s and stroking the t’s saves so much grief later on.
  • Give proper thought to your branding and look for if you are going solo or if you are personal branding for a career move. Getting your pal to do your website and buying cheap stationery is anti-advertising and marketing.

What has been your biggest learning in the journey so far?

Accounts. It’s important to get this correct from the start.

What piece of wisdom did someone give you that worked for you?

Sleep on it! You always see things with a more level playing field the next day when refreshed.

What’s next for you on this path?

I plan to expand my business and take on an apprentice.

What was the biggest piece of learning you picked up and ran with?

For me  as a website and design person it must be back up your data. Please don’t learn this one the hard way.

Pick a quote for life, and explain why it hits a home run for you?

There are always three groups of people. One group will love what you do, another will hate what you do. The final group won’t even know or care who you are.

Contact Gil

Gill offers website design and printing services in West Lothian, UK. You can reach him at gil[at]westlothianprinter.co.uk. Or visit, he always has real coffee on the go. He can be reached via Twitter or Facebook

Do you have a question for Gil? Thinking of leaving the voluntary sector and entering self-employment? Ask away in the comments,

Need some help to Quit Your Job and Find Your Work? That’s what I do.

Photo Credit: The Gestetner

Do What You Love to Do Interview: Kitty Kilian

August 30 Dawn

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I asked Kitty to contribute to the Do What You Love to Do Interviews because:

  1. She has a really interesting path (historian, artist, journalist, teacher).
  2. Her writing is so darned good. Okay, that’s just my opinion, but really it is.
  3. She strips back what doesn’t need to be there and just says what needs to be said.
  4. I knew her answers would be to the point.

Background: I first met Kitty online in 2011, her first words to me via a tweet were ‘you’re going camping, that’s so 80’s!’, and then for a year or so we wrote nonsense back and forth, and then eventually we met face to face here in Edinburgh in July 2012.

Intro from Kitty

I write in Dutch only. So enjoy the interview while it lasts.

Of personal information I have little of interest to share – or wait, I have just started using a running app that tells me to slow down and speed up and that I have done great.

I blog and I offer writing coaching at the Blog Academy and that is where I add value.

What does doing what you love to do mean to you?

For me creation (blogging, teaching, building websites etc) is escape from reality. It lets me live in my own zone. Where I can write and think and challenge and applaud. Helping other people write better comes naturally to me. It is an extension that does not feel like work.

I need to escape because reality is boring. Often in the garden at night I hear our neighbours’ dinner parties. I hear the sound of glasses and laughter and chatter and all I can think is: I am so glad I do not have to be them. Being in my own zone is way more interesting.

How are you living your life doing what you love to do?

It has taken me almost a lifetime to find my sweet spot. I trained as a historian, I was a journalist, I am a wife and mom. I have free lanced, I have not held down jobs very well, I got a near burnout when I was around 40 and I have been unable to type for a few years.

I have adhd, like everyone else online. Which means I get bore out pretty fast. In the past it also made me insecure and ashamed and therefore often mildly depressed, but ever since I’ve taken medication I am just fine. I wish I had not waited till I was 48.

What has been your career journey to this point?

Before I found out I had adhd and before I took these great blue and white pills every morning (an antidepressant which is prescribed for adhd) my life just never felt right. There was always a big black hole in me, or so it felt. It needed filling up, but I could not find what with.

Now it is full. Just like that. No more questions.

Oh and also: I do no longer count each night how few friends I have. I never count my friends anymore. There are too many.

How did you make doing what you love to do happen?

Kitty Kilian Blog Academy Img 1
By Kitty Kilian

I had at some point decided to be an artist. I made mixed media stuff with ironic quotes that I had picked up in conversations or magazines. But to sell I had to study online marketing. Then I looked into copywriting and realised I knew how to do that already.  My artist  blog picked up and a friend asked me to do a blogging workshop. It took off from there.

When did you know what it was?

When I realised how much I liked copywriting and that there was a great need for people to learn how to write effectively in this age of content marketing, even if they don’t know it themselves.

Can you share the good, the bad and the ugly when you made the decision to do what you love to do?

I was just starting to get back to work when I started the Blog Academy so there were no financial worries. I was not dependent on anyone. I did not need to suck up to anyone. I could just be my old critical ex-journalist me. And write about how to raise a blog.

In the beginning I had a business partner who was no real partner. Teaming up is not always the best thing to do.

What were the biggest hurdles, challenges and barriers you had to overcome?

At first I had few readers. It took ages for the blog to take off. A year or so. Keeping at it was the hardest. And finding out what my readers really wanted to buy from me.

What was easy? What was a surprise?

Writing a blog each week has been easy. I take every Friday off to write it. I love my Fridays.

What led you to this love specifically?

I have always loved writing and have always done so. Along the way, working for a newspaper,  I forgot how much fun it really is. I am glad I rediscovered.

What would be your top 5 pieces of advice, or suggestions, words of wisdom you would like to share?

  • If you are unhappy: find out why. Then make it better.
  • If you happen to get a psychiatric diagnosis in the course of  that: don’t fight it for too long. Then make yourself better, or as well as you can. Do the running, the healthy eating, the sensible amount of sleeping and take the damn pills. You will never look back.
  • Enjoy your family and love them to bits
  • Take care of people who need care
  • Only do what you love – if you can

What has been your biggest learning in the journey so far?

That doing good work brings you good friends and customers.

What piece of wisdom did someone give you that worked for you?

Think hard before you write down the first line.

What’s next for you on this path?

A course on how to illustrate your own blog. The copywriting course is reasonably thought-out by now. The illustration course will be a new adventure for my own pleasure.

What was the biggest piece of learning you picked up and ran with?

Just start. And improvise along the way.

Pick a quote for life, and explain why it hits a home run for you?

There is a 17th century Dutch painter and engraver by the name of Goltzius who had a motto I love. His motto was: ‘Eer boven golt’ which translates as: ‘Honour above gold.’

I have always balked at doing things I don’t believe in. And I treasure the freedom to say no. Gold has never been my main goal. Being able to be difficult I value much more.

Where to reach you?

Since most of my work is in Dutch I don’t think people will visit. But I tweet and here’s the Blog Academy Blog.

Do What You Love to Do Interviews:: Rowan Blaisdell

August 21 Dawn

Rowan Blaisdell Massage Therapist Durango

Meet Rowan Blaisdell, a massage therapist (LMT) in Durango Colorado.

I asked Rowan to contribute to the Do What You Love to Do Interviews because he has such a great career journey: from chef to carpenters assistant, to baker and back to cabinet maker, then onward to a self employed Massage Therapist, all with a degree in degree in sociology and anthropology. And yes, the other reason for asking Rowan is due to the fact the profession he is in is still 85% predominantly female (Source).

Rowan sent a huge reply, and I’m publishing it unedited. Why? Because if you are someone who is thinking of retraining. returning to school or wanting to make a complete shift, this is how it went for someone else and it’s (I feel) better to have a full story than snippets.

“After 15 years as a custom cabinetmaker, as well as a few years of artisan bread baking, I found my way to massage therapy. My hands like to be busy, and I like to help others feel better, so it’s a good fit for me.”

1. What does doing what you love to do mean to you?

“Doing what you Love to do” for me has been a constantly evolving process. What that means to me has not shifted, but the content of my life certainly has as my own ideas of right livelihood and personal satisfaction have morphed and changed. Doing what I love means to me that I am fulfilled both personally and professionally.

2. How are you living your life doing what you love to do?

Right now part of doing what I love includes time not doing my career full time. My wife works full time, and our 12 and 13 year old daughters fall under my care much of the time. Now that school has started back up it’s time for me to focus in a bit more on my own practice and building that up in a new city. But part of my passion and joy in doing what I love is caring for my family.

3. Describe your career journey up until now

My “career journey” has been a journey to be sure. All through high school, college and beyond I worked in restaurants, gradually working my way up to chef.  I have a degree in sociology and anthropology and thought I would end up teaching some day, but after college I became less interested in that path.

I continued to work in restaurants until I finally couldn’t take the nights, weekends, stress and environment of that life anymore.

I got a job as a carpenter’s assistant with a company that built high-end custom homes. I had no idea how to do any part of this job, but I liked being more physical and seeing the end result of my work.

After a year or so of this I was becoming more and more disenchanted with my employer. The last straw for me was being “sold” to the new painter for the duration of the project. I decided then that I would leave, planning on giving notice asap. Then I met the painter that the owner had hired for the job and my life took yet another turn.

A woman called Lynzi Wildheart was from Texas and recently landed in Western Massachusetts looking for work. She was a politically active feminist musician, and we hit it off like we had known each other our whole lives. She remains my sister to this day. We decided to form a painting company and go into business together. This was my first taste of being self employed, and it would shape the rest of my life.

We did well, Lynzi and I, doing mostly commercial work, and making more money than I had ever made before. Towards the end of a year-long nursing home job, I decided that painting wasn’t giving me the level of personal satisfaction that I needed. I enrolled in a custom cabinetry training program and started working with wood.

While I was on construction sites I would often see the cabinetmakers come in and install their work. I was always drawn to the finer aspects of what they did, and so when I had the opportunity to use my father-in-law’s wood shop while we were renting their house, I decided to give it a go.

A year later I hung out my shingle and began making cabinets. The best and worst thing about being self employed in America is that for many jobs there is no regulation regarding proficiency of a trade. I had no clue how to do most of the jobs I got until I worked my way through them. I ended up doing a lot of jobs for very little money because I often had to remake something that didn’t turn out as it should have. Luckily for my clients, I never delivered a project until it was right, so the learning curve was all behind the closed doors of my shop.

My wife and I move around a lot. I don’t know why we do this, but it has seriously impacted both of our careers. Each time we moved it meant starting from scratch in a place that knew nothing of me or the quality of my work.

When we moved to Vermont from Massachusetts we discovered our neighbor had built a wood-fired oven and was turning out some of the most beautiful bread I had ever seen. I mentioned one day that if he ever wanted to get out of that business, I would love to step in. Six months later I was the new owner of the company and had built my own oven.

I continued to build up my cabinet business as well, baking three days a week and spending the remaining time in the shop. It was a busy time, and we had our girls who were 1 and 2 at the time. My wife and I always felt strongly about not putting the kids in day care. This meant one of us was always on hand, and therefore not working outside the home full time.

This to me is huge part of “doing what you love”. Having time to be there for our family.

After a couple of years, we made a move to New Hampshire, selling the house and bakery as a package to two great folks who are still running the business today. Our plan was to move to an area of greater population density and using the first bakery as a model, open up another one. It was an absolute disaster financially and we closed the doors after 8 months, having lost all of our substantial profit from the sale of the original bakery.

Luckily I had my cabinetry skills to fall back on, and I scraped up enough credit to buy some more machinery and opened an another shop.

We moved again to Maine and yet another cabinet shop was opened and again I began anew to build a clientele. I was settling into a decent groove in Maine. I was getting bigger and more challenging jobs and my clients were pleased with the results. Then the economy tanked. Suddenly I was working for less and less, but doing the same job. Eventually it just got too hard to make a livable wage. The clients didn’t have the level of available cash they once did, and the jobs were fewer and farther between. I had become disillusioned with the work. I had spent the better part of 15 years making very expensive items for people who often had more money than sense. I didn’t want to be part of that culture of consumerism anymore. It felt wrong. It felt like I had more to give.

4. How did you make doing what you love to do happen for you?

In general, when I get really excited about something, I jump in with both feet. Right off the cliff, and once I’m in the air I figure out the best way to land.

My decision to go to massage school was similar. I briefly looked at nursing, Physician Assistant, Nurse Practitioner, even med school. I had two concerns with all these paths. First, since I had a humanities and not a science college degree, I would need to basically start from scratch with my schooling. This would mean giving up my life, and especially my family life, for many years. I didn’t feel like I could do that at the age my kids were at. They needed me more than that.

The other issue was the reality of what my day would look like in any of those professions. Too many patients, too little time, and likely I would be answerable to supervisors who needed to watch the financial bottom line more than the quality of care. It didn’t feel right. I found a massage program that felt good to me. It was on the weekends, so I could continue to work part time, and I would still have plenty of time for my family. I had been saving for a more expensive program, so I was able to pay for the whole thing up front, and I just leaped off the cliff.

5. When did you know what your ‘love work’ was?

For better or worse, I was raised with the idea that I could be/do anything I wanted to. If something catches my attention, I go all in. I obsess and research and allow myself to be consumed with it.

Often this only lasts for a very brief period of time before it loses it’s shine. If it holds my attention long enough, then it may be that I try it on for work and see if it’s viable. I had thought about massage therapy for years, ever since a good friend in VT went that direction and gave me a free session. I loved it. More than that, I loved the environment. I loved the soft music, the mellow room, the quiet. I loved the idea of caring for another person in such a profound way.

Before this I’m not sure I ever thought much about health care or healing. I don’t mean “Healing”, as in “I will Heal you”. I mean the kind of healing we all do each day. The mending of hurts both physical and emotional. Unfortunately our world is not currently set up to take time out and move inwards. To check in and see what parts of us we need to pay attention to.

An hour of massage isn’t just about the physical benefits of that manual manipulation of tissues and limbs. It’s about having a chance to let down. It’s about allowing ourselves to renew our reserves that keep us feeling strong inside too. Being able to facilitate that kind of thing for others appealed to me on a very deep level. I wanted to do this.

6. Can you share the good, the bad and the ugly when you made the decision do what you love to do?

When I made the decision to go to school for massage therapy, there were a number of concerns that I very consciously set aside.

I’ve always felt that part of why I’m here is to push through what I’m uncomfortable with.

My reasons for not pursuing this were mostly fear-based:

“What if I can’t make a living doing this?”

“What if I’m bad at it”

“What if I hate it once I get into it?”

The desire to do the work you love is stronger than fear.

Click to Tweet: “The desire to do the work you love is stronger than fear.”

I’m not sure I can even say why I had such a strong drive towards this, it was just the direction of the flow, and I was moving along with it. I would deal with those things as they popped up.

One of the best things about making this choice for me was the training itself. I loved going back to school. I loved doing something every week or two that was just mine. I loved my classmates and my teachers. The 20 hour weekends, with 5 hours of driving on top of it, were hard. But it was a good pace for me and allowed me to absorb the information deeper than if I had done a full time program.

7. What were the biggest hurdles, challenges and barriers you had to overcome?

The hardest thing was our personal finances while I was in school. I wasn’t working full time, and for awhile I wasn’t even working part time. Our house was a burden and it was hard to meet the bills. On top of that, Anna and I like to spend time together. The less we see of each other, the more stressed we tend to be when we’re together. With my weekends booked, we had to be more creative to make sure we were getting enough time to ourselves.

8. What was surprisingly easy?

One thing that surprised me along this path was how much I loved this work. I had been a Reiki Master/teacher for 5 years, so I was familiar and comfortable with having people on my table. But massage is different. Your client is undressed, and the level of physical contact is much more intimate.

I don’t know about others who choose this work, but I really didn’t know if I was going to be ok with this until I tried it. I have always been a physical person. I like to hug my friends, I like to show my affection for others in a physical way.

Massage though, was not something I did. I had a bad experience when I was twelve with a guy in my town. It was not massage, but that’s what he called it. He was a predator. Suffice to say that as I grew older massage was not something that I did for others causally as some people do. Many who find themselves going into this field have always given back rubs, foot rubs, that kind of thing. Not me. Not once. No way.

So, here we are, on the first day of school. Our teacher says we will be starting on legs and glutes, and pairs me up (understandably) with the only other man in the class. I asked him to be on the table first. I did not want to prolong this in any way. I got him settled face down, undraped a leg, and off I went. You know what? It was fine. It was a little awkward, it was not the best leg massage ever witnessed. But I felt comfortable. I was relieved, to say the least.

It was one of those moments when something that you know has been holding you back is let go of. Just put it down and walk away, you don’t need to carry that anymore. So that was a very pleasant surprise.

9. What led you to this love work specifically?

As I said, I had been a reiki practitioner for five years. I loved that work. The more I did it, the more I got clear on what I loved about it. I loved that experience of providing a place for people to let go. I was humbled by the trust placed in me. It was a sacred space, and my clients felt safe, cared for, and nurtured. They often broke down.

I learned a lot about how to hold space for someone who is releasing trauma.

When physical contact is helpful and when it’s not. How to be sympathetic with my client, but not move into a panicked or sorrowful place with them. To anchor the energy so they could do what they needed to do to move this out of their bodies, and know that they were safe.

The longer I did this work, the more information I craved. I felt muscle and bone under my hand, but I didn’t know what they were called or what their function was. I wanted to be able to pull and stretch my clients. I wanted to know how to loosen a tense muscle. I wanted a deeper understanding of the body, and the license to manipulate it to achieve a greater balance. massage was the path to that goal.

10. What would be your top 5 pieces of advice, or suggestions, words of wisdom you would like to share?

  • Sit with what your fear is really about. How do you feel when it comes? Do you feel like an adult or a child? If the worst thing happened, how bad would that really be?
  •  “Doing what you love” for work may be the quickest way to drain the joy out of a pleasurable activity. We all need things that are not work that feed us. Work and play are often two very different things.
  • Shadow someone who does what you want to do. Remember that their day is not your day, it’s their day. But it might give you some insight into how it feels to do that job.
  • Don’t get discouraged by how many others are doing “the same thing”. They’re not. No one will do this like you will do it.
  • There is always a way to make it happen. Don’t give up.

11.What has been your biggest learning in the journey so far?

Happily, my “biggest learning” had been that the more I learn in this field, the more I know I don’t know. I’m a great massage therapist. I have great hand skills and great instincts. I could stop there, but there is so much that I don’t know that I will never get bored with this. My choices of research and personal growth are endless.

12.What piece of wisdom did someone give you that worked for you?

One of the things that this field does well is impress upon it’s students the idea of self care. We cannot be there for our clients if we are not first there for ourselves. This holds true no matter what your career. You come first.

13.What’s next for you on this path?

I’m in a new city, in a new state. Virtually no one knows me. I need to get out there and let this community know what I can offer them. Building a practice is an uphill climb. It takes time. I’m very fortunate to have a partner who makes a good living. I will be building my practice, and caring for my family. Those are the two most important things to me, and one without the other would not truly be me “doing what I love”

14.What was the biggest piece of learning you picked up and ran with?

Nothing is forever. I don’t expect to be a massage therapist forever. It’s what I’m doing right now, and I love it, and I love that every day the work teaches me more of what I need to know. At some point I will be pulled in another direction. It may be related to this field or not, but the skills I am building now will be part of that path, wherever it may lead.

Lastly, pick a quote you like, and explain why it hits a home run for you?

Be true to yourself. Don’t let anyone, including “society” stop you from pursing whatever makes you truly happy.

Contact Rowan

I am a massage therapist in Durango Colorado. Between running my business and caring for my family I cook, (for fun), I hike, I play guitar. I have been known to eat cookies and drink wine simultaneously. You can visit my massage website here or take a visit to my blog. If you’re in the area come and connect on Facebook or on Twitter.

 

Do you have a question for Rowan? Are you thinking of entering a new career in a similar field and want some more insight? Ask away…

Do What You Love to Do Online Course Is Here (+ How to Snag a Scholarship Seat)

August 19 Dawn

A quickfire round of yes or no questions…

  • Do you own a gift or talent that you want to share with the world? Are you sharing it?
  • Are you doing your unapologetic great work? If not, what are you doing?
  • Are you living purposefully and working your purpose? Oh no, not this purpose thing again!
  • Do you feel your own life would be all round happier and flourishing if you were doing what you love to do? Please say yes. Pretty please.

Or are you…

Bored? Uninspired? Lost? Fed-up? Stuck? Stopped? Stalled? I have something for you.

But first…

We live in a world where the most common belief to ‘do what you love to do’ is for many impossible, pipe dream, not do-able. Love and Work aren’t used (much) in the same sentence.

I hear it…

“I would do what I love to do – if I had the time.”

“Do what I love – that’s impossible I need to pay the bills.”

“I would do what I love – if I knew what it was.”

“How will I live?”

The common belief is becoming more uncommon.

Right lovely, for this post I’m going to wear two hats.

Hat No 1 is…my commitment to my belief that we can all (if we choose to) do what we love to do.

And.

Hat No 2 is…my professional careers advisor hat. The hat that many of you probably will be more comfortable with, but we’ll see…

Hat 1: Heart to Heart

I know most people equate the ‘doing’ part with ‘earnings’ bit, and well, that’s where the first error lies. Doing what you love to do isn’t necessarily about money, heck, it may be something that nobody will ever pay you for.

Can we do what we love: sharing our unique gifts, talents and skills with the rest of the world regardless of a payment?

I say … yes.

Are you allowed to create just because you want to and are called to?

Again … I say… yes.

Do you have to wait until you see a way of receiving a salary or paycheck to do what you love to do?

No. This time. I say … no.

I’m a coach and trainer. But it didn’t start with money/pay/earnings. It started with 10 years working as a volunteer in a charity who supported excluded, abused and ‘at-risk’ children, and young people. First as a front-line worker, then training new volunteers entering the charity. 3 months a year for 10 years volunteering. And then the rest of the winding path to today.

I love working with people. I love undoing fear. I love supporting others through their own transition. I stand for inclusion and diversity. I love helping people cut through the crap and noise so they can be who they really are and do what they love to do. That’s my difference. My talents, gifts and skills have seen different wallpapers, different environments and different office chairs, different remits and different client groups. But the core, the love part, has only grown stronger.

But I also know that doing what you love to do, for the majority of my fellow human beings appears impossible.

That’s why my own gifts, talents and skills are valuable and why I just have to use them. Not because they (mine) are all that special – but because there aren’t enough people in the world saying ‘you have the right to be happy’ and ‘you have the right to not live in fear’ and ‘you are valuable’ and ‘we need you, I need you’. That’s my gift. It’s not going to change the world on its own, it’s not going to end exclusion and bring about equality on its own. Yet, even if it makes a teeny ripple.

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As a trainer and coach, my speech isn’t:

‘You must do what you love, yes you can, I did it, look at me, so can you’.

But more:

‘I want to help you do what you love to do, right now who knows what it is, but let me show you how I made it happen (the good and the bad) and how all the others before you make it happen also…oh yes, there are others…I just want to show you it’s possible. It may be a long road, but to ignore what you are masterful at, when you know you are capable of it, urgh, please let me help you find a way.’ And now…

Hat 2: Heart to Head/Careers Advisor Hat

Am I saying we can all do what we love to do?

Yes, I am. But hold your horses, before you give me the ‘I need money, have bills to pay, it’ s not realistic’ speech… I’m not putting ‘what you get paid to do’ and ‘doing what you love to do’ in the same pot.

They are different.

One can be done regardless of whether you receive money or not.

You and I are not a career, work, job title, set of jobs and descriptions. Those can be rewritten and disappear tomorrow (and your perceived identity with them). Your skills, talents and gifts will remain, so why not use them more, bring them alive every day?

What if there was a way to use your gifts and talents? Isn’t it worth exploring?

So, for all those not doing what they love to do. I’m inviting you to stop waiting. To start, if you want to, down the path of making it all happen. I invite you to acknowledge your gifts, talents and skills.

I invite you to come and play. Explore. Create. Work out a way to make doing what you love to part of your everyday living and experience for life.

Why? Because if you ask ‘why am I not doing what I love to do?’ – I bet it comes down to money. The old way is crumbling. Money had no value all by itself. But you, your gifts and talents, they are what you do for yourself, and for others, that is beyond any value. Because I work with too many people who are utterly miserable in what they get paid for.

Money won’t fulfil the hunger for using your gifts.

There. I’ve said it. The (new) truth is that now, more than ever, more and more people are using their gifts and talents, and many making a living from it. Do you want to be paid to do the work you love to do?

Well, what steps are you taking today?

Nothing?

Ta-raa…now you can…

Introducing the Online Version of Do What You Love to Do Course

Shiny. You’re invited. It’s 5 weeks. All online, you can attend eating ice cream from your bed, wearing Scooby Doo pyjamas, really, come as you are. After 15 years of delivering this baby face-to-face with peeps, it’s now time for the online version.

It’s for you if…

You want to do what you love to do and you are willing to explore how you are going to make it happen.

You’re going to get…

You can read about it here.

However…

  • 5-week course all geared to help you discover your love work and start doing it.
  • A private classroom where you will receive all the course materials and you’ll be able to hang out with other peeps.
  • Powerful tools, resources, exercises, questions and Q and A’s.
  • Worksheets and journal prompts so you can work out (eventually) what your love work is and how to bring it into your life daily.
  • Community. One powerful group of lovely people to share, connect and bounce around your thoughts with. (This is mandatory…no lurkers!)
  • Oh, and of course wee calls with me and everyone else, a bit like ‘surgeries’.

You’ll love it if…

You’re ready to cut through all the resistance, excuses, barriers and obstacles and well, you can’t afford a career coach, life coach and business coach. Three in One would be awesome, this will give you that.

What can you expect?

Well, it’s my intention that you are doing what you love to do. At the end. Or not long after. I also expect through the community (support, encouragement, motivation and accountability) that you will take more action in 5 weeks than you have in the past 15 years.

Why this course?

I cannot expect everyone to believe me when I say ‘you can do what you love to do’. When I have my professional careers advisor hat on, I sit in the ‘do what you love to do’ camp but I also will being my qualifications, experience and ‘professional’ careers advisor robes’ and solo business owner knowledge.

Want to win a Scholarship Seat?

THIS IS NOW OVER THANK YOU TO ALL WHO ENTERED

Lots of love.

dawnsig

 

 

 

 

Do You Want to Change? Change Your Mind.

July 29 Dawn

Want to Change. Change Your MindHave you ever wished someone would just give you a different life? A new identity. One where you could bag up all the rubbish. Bin it. And then change your neighbourhood entirely with none of the crap you created this side of the fence? I have. How easy that would be. Up sticks and leave. Thank-you-very-much.

That is how I see a lot of people approach change. They want a new identity, not the hard love work  (sometimes emotional, generally always confusing process) of changing their minds.

I’ve heard a lot of people say ‘I need to change’, but I’ve yet to meet someone who actually said ‘I’m now willing to change my mind’.

Wanting to change, and being willing to change your mind are two very separate things.

Let me explain…

One way will bring about change so real and positive that today you have no reference for it, you can’t see it, it’s beyond your wildest dreams and imagination. And the other (in my experience) leads you back to your place of ‘I’ve had enough’,  for you to discover that you indeed didn’t, it gets worse, you learn that you can tolerate a lot more of the same stuff that is causing the pain.

It work both ways however, you can actually tolerate a lot more love, abundance, happiness, joy in your life, you may need to change your mind if it’s not happening <– that is good news. 

Do you know anyone who is always trying to change?

They could one of the nicest people to meet and be around, they may appear outwardly to be truly aware of who they are and they may say to you (from the top of my head) they have reached a level of real spiritual consciousness and yet they are constantly going through crap? Always in a drama. In total denial that they are pressure cooker, ready explode at any moment.

They move positively with ease and grace from one crisis to the next not being able to see that they are the crisis. They talk a good talk, but when you speak to them they still punish themselves: anger, blame, sickness, others fault that they aren’t living the life they really want, but they are ‘doing something about it’… that next book, that next class, that thing which will give them the answer they seek.

They talk about love, but then bitch about the person on the yoga mat next to them, or can’t even say good morning to the people who say it to them, or they can’t forgive another friends error? You see them arguing with people, throwing out guilt-trips, fearing people with their refusal to listen but they call it being the real me, when perhaps they are just being a mix of information they have read, and repeating not being.

They try more new ways to change, expect that it will be an external experience but no matter what they try it isn’t working, their life is still messy. They refuse to admit they are the common denominating factor in their own life. They want to change. But they aren’t changing their mind.  The only thing they actually need to do.

I get it though. Changing your mind isn’t easy. It’s easier to fool ourselves that we change the external. (Never works by the way. Sadly the whole world can’t play out our made-up scripts just because we want it to).

I spent y-e-a-r-s playing around with change. Years refusing to change my mind. Years pretending that I had. Years stuck knee deep in crap, thinking it was the end of it, convincing myself that I was changing, but I wasn’t. I was in denial and covering up. Result? More of the same.

For me, changing my mind was actually the last resort. You don’t have to wait. From one who tried Plan A, B, C. D…Z. Change happens when a) you accept you are the common denominating factor for all your experiences and b) only you can change your life by the process of changing your mind. The external world has never changed for anyone. Ever. You change what you experience, by changing your mind.

Simple concept. Easy to write. But do? Ah. Well. Yes, if you’re willing to change your mind. No, if you still want change to happen to you.

Ever tried to change and then flunked it? Then because you’ve been taught that you failed (when you didn’t) you felt it would be a really good idea if you went on and punished yourself for not changing? Anger, upset, not being good enough, not being strong enough, letting yourself down? That’s insane. That drama is all madness.

You did nothing wrong. You just didn’t go as far as changing your mind.

So, no error, you can correct it. Simply start by saying ‘that isn’t true for me’ is a good place to begin.

If your life isn’t what you want it to be. May I make a suggestion? Quit trying to change it, and work on changing your mind. Then be prepared for change, your world cannot do anything but change if you are changing the way you look at it.

And also be prepared that when it’s actually working you will give yourself every reason to quit. 

When you change your mind. You may be changing your beliefs, values, opinions. Everything you thought was the ‘truth’ you may realise wasn’t.

When you are changing your mind you may find you have no idea who the hell you are on the more. That can feel scary. It can feel you are on the cusp of something and not quite yet able to put your finger on it. That can feel disheartening and give the illusion it’s not working.

When you change your mind you probably won’t be able to explain to anyone what is happening with you, you don’t have the words or point of reference because you haven’t been here before.

When you change your mind about your life, you may even find people drop away. They still need someone to fulfill the role (that you once provided) and will seek it elsewhere.

When you change your mind, all the resistance to make the change will appear before you, on time. This requires you to make a choice. Do you go through the resistance, or do you let it stop your progress and take you off your path and return back to your ‘enough is enough’. You’ll know what to do. And there is no mistake either way.

If you decide to stop and not change your mind, don’t worry you will return to ‘normal’ quickly.

So even though you are confused, don’t know who the hell you are anymore, are going through resistance like you have never experienced, relationships are changing and all the time screaming inside to go back to what you know. Remember that all this is part of changing your mind.

Would it be okay to say to you that you can’t change your mind without your external world being a result of the change? All of it is a reaction to changing your mind.

Don’t sweat the change, enjoy the ride (ups, downs, highs, lows) of changing your mind.

Invitation:

If you need help to change your mind because you don’t want to spend the next 5, 10, 15, 20 years playing a game you know isn’t working, and you’re ready to stop playing around with your own life, please join me on the Moxie Project

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Will You Just Start Already

February 20 Dawn

Where are you stalling? 

Where are you saying ‘I’m not ready’.

Where has fear got your guts truly locked in?

Just start. Start now. You don’t need to have the full colour picture of the end result in your mind before you begin. Any end result before you get there is just a projection anyway, it’s not fact or truth as it is yet to exist.

There are no guarantees that what you are trying to achieve is going to be successful beyond your wildest imagination. There are no guarantees that what you are creating people will like and buy. There are no guarantees that what you are working on today will be your best work in 10 years time.

In fact, there are no guarantees about anything.

You have no control over what’s going to come up, neither do I, we don’t have that power. And yet, we cannot survive for long on the imaginary edge in business of will I, won’t I – eventually you have to move. Do you move forwards or retreat backwards?

The bottom of all the work you are doing today could fall out by tomorrow.

So, I’ll ask again where are you stalling?

What are you not doing but you know it needs done?

What are you waiting on?

What piece of irrefutable evidence are you seeking to confirm to you that what you are doing carries no risk? It doesn’t exist.

Are you lurking around waiting to see how stuff works for others? Are you too busy watching what everyone else is up to, watching them fail and have success so you will eventually have enough proof that you can go-ahead or not?

You have choices to make: you can choose to stay in love with excuses or you can choose not to. Your call.

You can use excuses of I don’t have the skills, abilities, knowledge, power, influence, connections, technical know-how and whatever others you can think up to keep you stuck. Fear loves that, it loves the fact it’s immobilising you.

But you don’t have them? They aren’t excuses? That’s the truth. 

You’ll never learn them until you start. You can’t over obstacles in your way if you aren’t heading somewhere and letting them come up. You have to start. What’s to appear will come up in good time, at the right time,  it will present itself to you and because you started, because you overcame the obstacles of yesterday you will be in a better place for the ones today.

Doing your most authentic and great work is sometimes like leaping into a void: a pit of unknowns, no safety net, no sure guarantees that everything will happen in the exact order you want them to happen. Doing your most authentic and great work is always about pushing through your own barriers and excuses. Doing your most authentic and great work is leaping when you aren’t 100% ready.

Every step you take is unknown, sometimes each step is riskier than the last. Overcome your own excuses and objections by starting, today’s obstacles will become something else tomorrow and that’s the way it goes.

Start. Or retreat back of the ledge. You may be more comfortable and safe but is that what you really want deep down?

Start now, start from where you are with all that you have at this moment. Start now with the resources you do have, with the passion you came with. Start now meeting the needs you see today and the skills you have to meet them. Start now with a picture of the end result you would like but be willing (and sometimes need to) change it. Start now and invent as you go, create as you move along, accept help when needed, give it when asked.

Please. I urge you to just start.

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