Asking a person ‘How do you feel?’, touches just the surface.
Feelings are what hurt a person, and as human beings we are drawn to a persons pain, hoping that we can fix or repair it.
However, feelings are never the root or cause of a problem.
The ‘problem’ has come from how a person has perceived, recorded, paid attention to an experience or event (plus a lot of other brain functioning!)
If a person is in ‘pain’ caused by the feelings, here’s some alternative questions to ask
- ‘how do you see the world?’
- ‘how do you perceive the problem?’
- ‘how do you know, you feel this way?’
Practice them on yourself the next time you say ‘I feel…’, follow it with ‘how do I know?’
Much deeper.
These questions can really get to the core of an individuals perceptions and beliefs, and allows them the opportunity to understand more of who they really are, and the ‘truth’.
Plus, if you ‘use on you’, don’t surprised if you can’t find any evidence to back up the feeling! Or if what you think you’re feeling, isn’t actually the feeling that is being felt!
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