Let’s talk about The Nod.
The Nod that you may be waiting on to create that life, the one you really want.
I have two dogs (that’s them in the pic) and they’re great at waiting on The Nod.
They’ve been trained to watch for it. At dinner time they sit and observe as I make their delectable dish.
As I put it down on the floor, they don’t even stick their wet snout in until they are given The Nod.
Crossing roads. They approach a pavement and sit. They look up to me for the The Nod, only when they get it they toddle across.
But.
Who the hell trained you to wait on The Nod?
The permission Nod.
The go-ahead Nod.
The it’s all right by me Nod.
The it’s okay to be you Nod.
The yes, create it, release it, put it out there Nod.
The Nod. Given by others to tell you that:
- You’re worthy enough.
- You’re capable enough.
- You’re ready enough.
- You’re good enough.
- You’re [insert word you’re waiting on] enough
You’re smart. You know that this behaviour of waiting on The Nod is a pile of kaka. You know that if anything is to be it’s up to you. You know you’re responsible, accountable and have full ownership of your life. You know that. But do you act accordingly?
We both know that as children we lived our entire lives looking upwards towards the adults responsible for us. Waiting for them to give us permission. Yeah, sometimes we didn’t wait when we wished we had, purely to save ourselves getting into bother and trouble.
Hmmm.
You, dear you, have you been so well instructed, submitted to brainwashing and taught to hold back until someone you perceive has more authority, status and power than you (just like the adults growing up) gives you the Nod?
Is that what’s still going on do you think? Are you scared that if you give yourself The Nod, you may get yourself into all sorts of scary, come back, told-you so, what did I tell you backlash?
No Lectures Here
You also know you don’t need to wait on anybody else giving you The Nod to create your life on your terms nor do you need to seek the approval of others.
Your life is in your hands. As soon as you believe and behave that it isn’t you give up your control. You give away your personal power. You surrender little pieces of your own self-worth.
Think about all the goals, dreams, plans and big ideas you have. Now, bring to the picture all the people you are waiting on approval from.
Ask yourself these questions:
- Why does their Nod matter more than my own?
- If the Nod doesn’t come, what will happen?
- How long am I prepared to wait on The Nod?
- Why is it okay for me to give this person power and control over my life?
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Dawn I had Had a crazy profound dream on this very topic last night!
I was at this swanky party with Beyoncé (who knew we were friends!) and we were talking about success. I was telling her that I thought I had this major awesome life but I really hadn’t worked “hard enough” for all the great things in my life. I went on to say something like “success requires hard work doesn’t it?”
Then Beyoncé looks at me kind of sadly and says, “You still think you have to DO SOMETHING to BE HERE.”
Yes I am always looking for “the nod” … time to stop that eh?? Thanks for further validation. The universe is suggesting I GET this message!
Kathy, you have made me laugh. Really laugh. Still giggling. What a FAB dream. Yeah, get the fecking message already. Have you told everyone about the dream — even Beyonce? I think you should tweet her. :-)))) Yours, laughing, thank you. xxx