Life, I’d Like to Change It But

What? But what?

• You’ve a wedding coming up?
• You’re waiting until pay day?
• Your youngest is starting dance classes next month?
• Too much on the TV?
• Getting your holidays over with first?
• You’re just ‘too’ tired?
• Haven’t got any money?
• You’re just not ready?
• Time isn’t right?

Can I ask you something?

What’s it going to take?

‘But it’s so hard’ you cry.

Yeah, it can be. Who said a change was a breeze?

The key is to embrace it, fall into it, let it happen, full on, come and get me change.

I’m not asking you how you’re going to do it (yet), I’m asking you what do you need to let go off, in order for you to realise that you’re worthy of the change.

You can’t learn to swim by not getting wet. You can’t learn to drive by not getting behind the wheel of a car. You can’t learn to get over a fear of dogs, sitting with a cat. You can’t learn to embrace change, without making changes. You can’t change your life, without doing things differently.

Scared? So is everyone else…

It’s not uncommon for people to turn their backs on the truth of how they are actually feeling or current circumstances because they don’t know or don’t want to face the ugly reality that they are so unhappy.

There are some that will ‘fill’ the voids with ‘stuff’ that will ensure that they never have to put themselves in a place where they have to think about their life, or where they feel fear. Fine. Do you want that? Really?

But.

What?

1. But you don’t know where to start? Start here.
2. But you haven’t got anyone in your life who can support your journey? Go here (external link)
3. But you just don’t know what you should be doing? Here, please.

Nobody is going to change your life, in the way you want it, apart from you. Sure things change, but are you willing to let change happen around you, which you could’ve had some control over?

Command your life. Take authority for it. Be responsible for you. Own yourself. Stand up.

Sounds easy written down.

Sure does.

Is that another reason not to try though?

And, if you’ve let others and circumstances control your life so far, you may find it takes a little time to start living a life with you in the driving seat.

Is a little time to settle in, better than no time?

You can’t control external events, but you can control how you feel about them, we both know that.

Is this way of life abrasive? If you want my answer, then no, it isn’t.

Change isn’t about screwing everything and everyone else around you, it’s merely stepping forward and saying, ‘I’m in, I’m here, I’m ready and willing to play’.

If you want to ‘wait’ for the ‘right time’ and allow other events take their place, that’s fine. Cool. The change will happen anyway, I just wonder though if you’ll be on the right side of it?

Try this exercise:

Think of a current area of your life that needs to be changed. Just one.

On a piece of paper, write down in the middle the current situation.

Then just jot down words in response to the following questions.

• How do you feel about it? (15 words plus)
• What’s great about the situation? (there will be something!)
• What’s bad about the situation?
• How does the situation affect other areas of your life?
• If the situation were changed, what would be there for it’s replacement?
• What resources do you have (or can tap into) to make the change happen?
• Is the change worth it? What will you be trading?
• What will be different as a result of the change?