Have You Grown Out of Your Blog? (Life, Career or Biz?)

Writing the story is one thing, altering the story halfway through can be a scary business.

Pretty soon is my ten year anniversary of not working for, or answering to someone else for pay, it feels like a lifetime ago. Oh, wait a minute, it is a lifetime ago.

Back in the dark ages, the business activity was helping long-term unemployed people back into employment. There was no website, no blog, no Facebook (that baby wasn’t born), no social media, no WordPress, that’s right, no WordPress. (Breathe, bloggers, breathe.)

One decade. Can you remember what you were doing a decade ago?

Have you changed? Silly question.

The part in-between from that day to this is a mix of highs, achievements, lows, nightmares, fun, 97% brilliant clients, learning like I have never learned before, wondering if I can pay the mortgage next month, then trips to New York. It’s made me laugh, cry, and for a while pretty ill, up and down, over and round, it really has been one ‘helluva ride.

So what?

Transitions My Love Transitions

Like you, I’ve changed in 10 years. I started a business looking for freedom. Where I am today is choosing to be free (as much as the systems will let me.)

Back then there is no way I would talk to you as I do now, there is no way I would mention the F-word, there is no way I would talk about VJaysJays on Twitter, there is no way that I would sack a client.

Back then that 30-year-old something was trying so hard to fit into her screwed up perception of what a business owner does. The high heels hurt, the hand-bags were ridiculous, the filofax plain annoying, the nice pens always got lost, the pristine professional look wasn’t (and still isn’t) me.

New Stories Waiting to Be Written, Eager to Be Told, What’s Yours?

Take this website (in the past year) it has been my biggest love/hate/hair pull project: if you’re new here you won’t be aware that it has been changed more times than I’ve changed my knickers in the past year.

I know now what’s been happening.

It wasn’t the blog.

Nor the business.

Not even the website.

It’s been me.

If this business was a one of those children-like things, and I their parent, I swear the child would be a rebel devil.

See, you can only contain something that wants to do and be something else for so long before it starts to fight back against the oppressor, nothing can be kept from being a true expression of itself, it comes out eventually.

When was the last time someone or something held on to your hems? What happened in the end? How did it feel? Is it still happening? How’s that going for you?

I’ve been in ‘transition’ for about three years, just not realising it. When I started blogging for business, years after the start-up phase, the stories were sanitised ‘how-to’ posts about CV’s, application forms, general career-sy stuff, and of course personal development, which is a phrase I hardly use anymore.

Creating a Mini-Revolution

I whole-heartedly accept my own mini-evolution. And through this transition (I’m sure there will be more to come) I embrace my mission has grown stronger.

Transition is such a beautiful word.

To transform.

To shift.

To grow.

To develop.

The complete opposite of stagnation and sameness. I don’t want my life, my business, my world to become same old, same old, what about you, for your life? I don’t even want to be known as a ‘coach’ or a ‘trainer’, in fact I don’t want any more labels put upon me, therefore I have to quit placing them on myself.

Isn’t that what we all want?

To not be defined by labels. To not be placed into box, after box, after box with all the roles we play in life? Isn’t that where we begin to lose who we truly are?

So what’s next?

And I ask that to you also. What’s next for you?

Over the past 10 years I’ve been learning information that has nothing to do with changing careers and personal development, I’ve been touching on it here and there in this blog. It is going to help women cut ties and labels so they can transform into what they know they are capable of. That I do know.

Why? Because I utterly believe that there are people in this world who have a MASSIVE mission and message to share. Some of you sitting there will have dreams, plans, ideas and goals that will blow me away when I hear them, I know that. See, it’s going to be an honour to serve you.

Why Am I Sharing This With You?

Partly as an introduction to all the changes around here. And to say…

Everything is just a story. The future you not yet written, how wonderful is that?

If you’ve grown out of parts of you’re life, you’re allowed to transform, to re-write, to create new scripts for yourself.

Be brilliant in your transformation, you don’t need to deny where you have been, just take the brilliant parts with you (and the learning of course.)

Start a crusade, be something to someone – not a sanitised version to everyone.

If you know you’re at a turning point in your life, little biz, career, you already know that you’re going to have go round that corner at some point, don’t you? At some stage you are going to pull up your socks, take a deep breathe and confidently look right round and then step out. It’s coming, you know the time is nearly upon you.

I encourage you to accept that the transformation is a progression to the next stage. What stage? Oh, I’m sorry, I don’t have the answer to that one for you.

See, I believe sometimes we come to a point in life where we realise that all we have be doing until this moment has been in preparation, for something much bigger than we dreamed about 10 years ago.

What if that something else is so remarkable it takes your breathe away?

It’s worth the alteration surely? Yes? No?

‘Till next time.