What Are You (Really) Focusing On?

Anyone can take action, but not everyone can remain focused on the right action to take.

Why?

Short answer: because focusing is really hard work.

Take running a business, the focus needed to take to bring that alive and keep it breathing (as in getting the right people to find you, connecting with them, building a relationship with them, offering something they need and for them to say, ‘Can I have what you are offering?’) is, well, endless.

Putting up your website will take a little focus but not as much focus as being crystal clear on the reason why you are putting up a website in the first place and what it has to say today, tomorrow, next week and into infinity.

Finding out what you should be getting paid for in life requires focus, and again, hard work. Taking time out to treat your search and discovery with the same seriousness and commitment of remembering to record your favourite TV shows. I mean, writing your CV (Resume) takes focus, but not as much focus in exploring all your options available to you with the skills you have now, and those you want to grow. Applying for work IS full time work!

Getting bendy (read: fit), the focus is (generally) on losing, not on the possibility and potential of what can be gained gain. The focus is placed on the scales, folks are sucked in by the bombardment of messages of others telling them ‘this is the standard’ that you should achieve and live. It’s exhausting. Neither wonder focus wavers.

Being kinder, gentler, more compassionate, the focus is (generally) highlighting all the ways in which we’re not, as opposed to taking the time time to focus on all the ways in which we can remember that we deserve for ourselves, what we freely give to others.

Even writing, painting, drawing, making: real focus is when you are doing it, not when you are talking about doing it or choosing a nice pen to get it done! We both know it!

Focus means you have to actually make decisions, you have to actually choose, you have to quit suppressing yourself, get honest about is doable today and what you can work on for tomorrow. You have to find your own way of making sure your head and feet are pointing in the way you want to be going.

But above all else, you have to know the real, heart not head reason, why the focus is worth your attention in the first place. You have to know. And then quit wasting your beautiful life focusing on what simply does not meet your standards, what has no relevance, no purpose or what is sucking your energy to the point of depletion you don’t have any left to give the actions that are right for you.

Where’s your real focus? Are you looking the way you want to go or somewhere else?