Thinking Makes It So

Here’s a few things that aren’t real and don’t exist,

• Horrible weather
• Bad days
• Hump Day
• Monday Blues
• Bad hair days (I type reluctantly)
• Weird dress sense
• Good news
• Bad news

I know, how dare I suggest there is no such thing as bad news, or good news? Shakespeare wrote, “Nothing is good or bad, but thinking makes it so.” Spot on Mr S.

While you and I have probably said, ‘Feck, what a bad day I’ve had’, I’d bet my bra, that the 7 billion or so that lived the same date as us, there will be a few where the reality was different.

While we have interpreted a day as awful, some folks may have had very different experience: joyful, happy, amazing … one of utter wonderfulness.

So, that can’t make our perception the truth, can it?

And weird dress sense, it were the truth then everyone would have to agree it were weird. But what’s the likelihood there? And who decides what is weird and what isn’t? Maybe someone else would interpret it as fashionable, quirky and beautiful.  

If the weather were horrible, then we would all have to agree on what we define, and what would be classed as horrible. When you are upset it’s raining, someone depending on the rain for their crops, may be doing back flips at the wet stuff falls.

The people who love what they do and get paid for probably don’t even think about Monday being a colour. What one person defines as a good day, another will perceive it as a waste of a day.

Even two people who have a similar experiences on the same day, one can say that was nightmare and the other could say what a great learning experience.

It’s all perception and interpretation.

These generalisations don’t exist.

You may or may not buy into them. You may agree with some (that fit your map of the world and the scripts we live by) and shun others.

And there you go,

There is always, always, other ways to look at things – a single way for each mind that wanders this planet. That’s a lot of ways.

Why would you choose to look at life as a hard, cold, negative,  devaluing, and willingly agreeing with a way of thinking that diminishes, hurts, and puts down who you are? Why would you accept for example phrases such as ‘this is the way life is’ and ‘things aren’t ever going to change’ for your life. Why would you do that?

What would it take for you to ask, ‘Is there another way of looking at this?’ And to actually look. 

You are always in control of your own thinking. Always. You can choose what you want to feel, how you look at things, and what state of mind you want.

Alas, many don’t believe that.

Or they think that they need trained to do it. That they need to learn a set of skills, how-to’s and techniques to get them to the point where they have passed some test, stamped by someone else that say they are, and always were, in control of their own thinking.

The first step is not just believing in the power thought, it’s believing that you have the power of your own thoughts. Believing that you not only can think what is possible, but it is possible for you. Can you see the difference?

When you start to believe, you then start to feel. When you start to feel, you then can create and try. And when you try, you become more skilled and confident. Eventually, all this negative talk and thought diminishes, your generalisations and limitations you placed on you and your life cease to exist.

There is always another way to look at things, you have the power to make that so. Trust it. Believe it.