Monday Morning Pep Talk: When You Hear The Words No

I’ve done it too. I’ve had a dream and then before I even got past, ‘Wow, that’s so possible for me’: barriers were raised, resistance is reared and the dream  is quickly extinguished.

I believe we spend far too much time with voices in our heads that do not belong to us.

Parents, teachers, friends, primary care givers — whoever, when you hear the word ‘No’, or ‘Not possible’, is it your own voice and truth, or does it belong to someone else?

Try this:

For every single ‘not possible’ or ‘I can’t’ or ‘I’ll never be able to’, and so on.

Simply, ask yourself ‘Says who’? Easy.

Examples:

I can’t do that. Says who?

I’m too fat, ugly, thin, unattractive, and so on. Says who?

I’ll never make it. Says who?

I’ll never love like that again. Says who?

I don’t have the confidence. Says who?

I’ll never find a job I love. Says who?

Life is so hard. Says who?

I’ll never get out of debt. Says who?

They would never hire me. Says who?

You have the opportunity here to work out where the real source of the resitance and barriers are, to dive into the shadows of your past to find out who planted the seeds of doubt in your mind of what you are actually capable of.

As soon as you start to see the truth, as it really is (not as you believe it to be), you discover that the barrier and resistance never belonged to you, was it someone else telling you no, because they never thought it was possible for them? Just a thought.