I would say I’m a ‘95% of the time’ a positive person, the other 5% being reserved for general ‘off’ days and when I give myself a permission to be a good old grump!
That means, using these percentages, most people I meet are faced with the ‘Dawn of Positivity’.
I can only think of a handful of people who have spent time with the other part of me, it’s not a pretty sight, when I decide to spend a while over in the darkside, nothing is spared.
(I know, you may have thought that those who advocate positivity are in merriment and glee 24/7, nope not true. Well I for one, will admit that. We’ve all got our nonsense to deal with.)
I like being a positive person.
I CHOOSE positivity, yet I know I annoy the hell out of most people in my immediate circle of friends and family.
Like last week…according to a close connection, who said ‘thinking positively all the time, is not realistic…’ (there was more, but I’ll save that for another post.)
Thinking positively (in my book) has nothing to do with realism.
If you find yourself in the company of a positive thinker, here’s a few tips on how we see the world.
Oh and I use the word ‘we’ generally, if you are a postive thinker and I’ve missed a point you think is mega important, feel free to jump in on the comments:
1. We’ll always see the best in people, first.
Telling us what they are really like, won’t matter. We will make up our own minds.
2. We’ve decided that happiness (in our life) is a priority
However hard some try to beat it out of us, we won’t break. Yes money and material things are nice, but happiness, positive mental health and general health count more.
3. We don’t mind the fact that problems exist
No we are not burying our head in the sand and ignoring reality (as many want to point out to us), we just know that there will be a solution somewhere, and we’ll find it.
Oh, and telling us ‘that’ll never work’ will just make us more determined — actually, if you want something done, ask a positive thinker.
4. We know things may not always go to plan.
But we don’t dwell on the negative ‘may not happens’, we rather focus on the positive ‘could happens’.
Some may think we just ‘go for it’ and not worry about the consequences, we usually have worked through the worst possible case scenarios and planned for the best!
5. We can use strange sentences like ‘be in the present’, ‘live in the now’!
We’re sorry if we don’t feel as devasted about past events as much others. No matter how shit they were.
We like to take the lessons out of the experiences we made in the past, but that’s all it is to us, the past.
6. We like to explore who the hell we are
Yeah, we like doing ‘work on us’, we love the fact that we may change and grow, we actually get excited when we learn something about ourselves we never knew was there!
7. We are not ‘happy clappy optimists’ as some may think
We know that goals, dreams, plans aren’t just going to magically appear, we are ready for the hard work, as the payoff will be worth it.
And we’re real, if something is beyond us, we either put it aside until we can take the challenge or find someone who can help!
And lastly…
We give ourselves permission to feel how we are feeling, if that means we are choosing a grump day, then so be it.
What I find amazing is when the grumping begins the people that hate ‘postitive’ thinkers get in a panic, I wonder if we’re more valuable and needed than some let on!
Your turn — if positive psychology and thinking is your thing, how do others ‘view’ you?
Not your thing? Just how annoying are we?!
Photo Source With Thanks to: It’s Meng
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