Change is Hard, Fact. But So Is No Change

You want change. It has to be different. Life. Whether it’s an internal problem or an outward condition you’ve reached the stage where the old way must be gripped, released, put down, left behind. But why is change so darned hard at times?

Imagine you have been viewing your life through the bottom of a thick glass your entire life. It hasn’t blocked anything out but it has been distorted, unclear and not giving you an accurate representation of what’s really there. You’ve lived with it. It’s what you know. You’ve become used to not seeing the whole picture.

Now, imagine that someone who loves and cares for you comes along and tells you that you don’t have to use the glass to see through any more. You can put it down and if you do you’ll be able to see with more clarity and have a better perception of all and everything. They tell you that others before you have laid down the glass and they are struggling less. Life has become easier because of the simple fact they can see clearly where they are going.

Would you put down the glass?

Even though you’ve been carrying it your whole life and you don’t know anything else yet?

Would you resist? Would you ask your friends a heap of questions first, just to make sure you were doing the ‘right’ thing? Would you ask for proof and evidence that the ones who have removed the glass are happier and more at peace? Would you be worried that if you removed your glass you would be open and vulnerable, and want to be sure that if you didn’t like the new way you could return to the old? Just in case, right?

Change isn’t always easy because you are so used to the way things are. Even the parts of your life that you know cause you upset, pain, struggle, anger and frustration aren’t always easy to change because it doesn’t matter how ‘awful’ or ‘bad’ it is, we have to be getting something (positive) from the pain and upset otherwise we would have changed already.

When you dare to remove the glass, to put it down and see the (your) world as it really is it may be a shock, it may not be the way you want it yet. The picture is all new, you are back at the beginning again. It’s okay, really. From a glass put-er-downer. You’ll be okay.

Try these journal prompts. Try them. Who knows?