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Pigging Out at The Social Media Smorgasbord – Time to Diet?

August 8 Dawn

It’s a Bargain! All You Can Eat For…

How did you choose what was going on your Social Media menu?

Did you take the ‘I’ll just dive in’ path (like the folks who run towards a buffet thinking they’re never going to eat again), consuming all that’s available, as quickly as possible?

Did you head into using social networking, before plunging into answering ‘why am I using social media‘?

What have you piled on your virtual plate?

  • A bit of Twitter?
  • Chunk of Facebook?
  • Slice of Google+, just to try it?
  • Squeezing in social bookmarking?
  • Found a small space for forums (they do still exist)?
  • Nibbling away on LinkedIn?
  • Pinterest made it to your plate?
  • Morsels of blogging, photo sharing, YouTube?
  • And that’s just the first helping…

Once you got that all balanced sky high, did you then add the sizzling hot new tools available that you’ve never tasted before, trying to cram them on top of what’s already looking a little precarious?

Uneven. Wobbly. Balancing act. Going to land on the floor any minute.

Your social networking – have you managed to maintain them all?

Or

Do you miss a one week, then pick up the next? Leave it for months, then dive in for a few days, get busy, and then leave again. Do you read posts such as ‘200 New Social Media Tools to Use for Your Business’ and then try to apply at least half in the space of an afternoon?

Are you that hungry?

The Social Media Smorgasbord

(I know, I could’ve used ‘buffet’, but Smorgasbord sounded far snazzier)

Would you look at it…

Have you had a chance to actually enjoy the meal?

Have you been too busy devouring and absorbing the tools to actually stop, sit down and share?

‘They’ say a meal is best enjoyed in the company of others. Have you sat down at the virtual table?

(Assuming you aren’t ‘collecting’ people, just so they can be at your social media party. No, sorry, collecting 5,000 ‘friends’ on Facebook or 7,000 Twitter followers does not mean it’s going to be a great event!)

Pigging Out

A few months ago now, I realised I’d overdone it. I knew I should not have had that last portion of ‘please confirm your email subscription’.

I’d been too busy up at the social media buffet table trying to figure out what would satisfy my appetite and fulfil my needs: tasting and adding whatever new ‘dish’ was being produced, stuffing my face, without actually stepping back and trying to manage what I already had on my plate.

Time for a diet. Detox. Colonic Flush Thing.

Introducing the Social Media Diet

Basically, it’s simple

Do more of what works, less of what doesn’t.

Here’s the diet sheet:

Weigh In First: explore where you’re at, you’re skills, what you need, the ‘why’, what you can manage.

Quit The Binging and Gorging — you’re a solo business owner, you don’t need to use all the tools, or jump on the next new dish. Eat only what you can physically consume (time and money).

Know When You’re Sufficiently Full — as a solo business owner, do you really need to be the leader in social media? Unless of course you work in social media, then you do.

Seriously, what are you, the New York Times? Reuters?

When you’re full.

Stop.

Digest what you’ve taken in. Then move on to the next course.

Social Media Isn’t Free — it may appear that way, it’s not. It costs you time and money. Just spend it wisely, that’s all I’m saying.

Oh, remember social networking and social media are as different as night and day.

Huh?

Explain?

Okay, let’s assume you’re a local restaurant owner and you’re using social networking tools as part of your social media marketing. Let’s use Facebook for the example, you post:

  • You say ‘Just heading out for a meal‘. Great, people know you are going out for a meal. Networking, sure. Closed conversation though.
  • You may say ‘Just heading out for a meal, can anyone recommend a good restaurant‘. Networking, displaying you’re interested, encouraging conversation.
  • You could say ‘Just heading out for a meal, anyone know a great restaurant, what’s their website address so I can check it out?‘. Networking, conversation, sharing, interest, open conversation.
  • You could say ‘Just heading out for meal, what’s your favourite restaurant, any dishes you’d like to see on our menu?‘ Networking, conversation, sharing, listening, asking for feedback. (You could then go on and add it to the menu, for one night only, offering 50% off for the people who commented on the post!)

Size of The Meal — just remember you work alone, chances are you don’t have a marketing department! You are the department. Use what works. Choose the meal that has all the portions that fit your business.

Join The Table — have the conversations, connect, listen, share.

Photo Credit: Emilie Ogez (thank you)

PS: This is the stuff that makes me giggle. Making sure I had spelt ‘colonic’ correctly, I checked, and in the adverts this:

How To Create a Website for Your Little Biz

August 5 Dawn

This is part one in a series of posts for new solo business owners with ‘people helping’ businesses (or soon to be mavens) who want a website, but you’re stumped at where to start, because you aren’t (like me) a techie, designer or developer, and you don’t have the ‘money tree’ rooted in your back garden to spend on a fancy pants website.

(Or you’ve started and it needs to be salvaged, chill, you can have my back from carnage website nightmare stories, as we go.)

That means, if your website is all dandy, hunky-dory and top notch away and do something else today, and I’ll see you soon.

Oh, wait, before you zip away if you fancy helping and if you have a good ‘first website’ piece of advice or blood-curdling horror story, are you able leave a comment?

Right.

Now, we’re alone.

Your website.

I’m sure the people that are breaking their nails, scrolling down to leave a comment, know full well the angst a first website can be. It doesn’t have to be though.

Angst-y that is.

This is not going to be just a series of ‘techie’ workshops (but I will give you links to the ‘how to’ stuff and some cool people who are doing that), this is me, a solo business owner like you, who lived with a bump and bruise from slapping her forehead because her website sucked and didn’t know nada on how to fix it, and then what I did (long story) to turn it around.

You don’t have to make the same errors and whoopsies.

Yeah! Good news! Right…

Let’s Set The Scene…

…as this is the first in the series, you’ll get a longer intro.

Like the majority of solo business owners starting out, you probably have a budget.

So, you want to spend it wisely, yes?

You know you need a website, who do you trust? Where do you start? What needs to be in place for it to work?

  • You may be on the ‘first build’, trying the D-I-Y approach to save some pennies, nothing wrong with that, but how long have you been at it? Seriously. That long?
  • Or, you may have given the task to someone else, you’ve got the reins back again, and now you don’t have a clue with what to do with it. Sucks, huh?
  • You have a case of the ‘I’m online, everything will happen now’ touch of the airy fairies You thought you just needed to build a website and everyone would come flooding to your virtual doors. Mmm, ach, loads think that, you aren’t alone.
  • You may have built your site a while back, and you aren’t seeing any results. But you did have a plan didn’t you?

No plan?

Nothing?

Nada?

Not even a wee bit of scrap paper, a rough outline? Or an idea of what you actually would like your website to do?

Oh.

You don’t have a ‘freebie’ site, do you? You do. Okay.

Panic ye not, these posts will help you understand what’s needed on your website, to help you build your business.

Websites and Marketing Online My 2 Cents

They are ‘tuff work. Get prepared. (Only ‘tuff, because of the learning and applying, we don’t know, what we don’t know!)

They ‘ain’t easy. Sure, you could throw up a few pages to be ‘online’, but ‘being on online’ generally isn’t enough.

You actually have to make your website work.

And to make that work, you need to get your head around a few things. And then when you’ve done that, you need to get your head round a few more things, then a few more…and on it goes.

These posts are going to be a toe dip (should that be toe dip? Anyway…), an introduction, a fleet around the website world and internet marketing.

You’ll cover a little bit of copywriting (what to say on your site, and how to say it, actually Copywriting is much more than that, but let’s go easy, for now), how to engage people (without looking like a sleazy artist), a little of that SEO malarkey (yep, look you need a wee bit), a drop of design stuff, social media bits and bobs, planning and how to use your website to build your business.

Here’s why…

My very first business website rocked. It also flopped. Big Time!

 

The Rocking: It was huge, really flashy, cost a fortune, pictures were amazing, had a wonderful layout and navigation, looked awesome and it had the feeling that behind it was a team of a thousand minds, creating and writing personal development courses, when in fact, it was just me.

The Flopping: Over the year it was live, 10 inquiries (no list then).

Actually, I mustn’t lie to you, it was only 9, as one was my mum, asking if I was popping out for tea one day as she had Quorn in the fridge and it ‘needed to be eaten as she couldn’t refreeze it’. O, and one was me to make sure the contact form worked. 8 then.

3k for that!

It wasn’t the designers fault, only my mistake (but it’s not going to be yours.)

Why?

Because I was clueless about websites and really didn’t know what to do with it once it was built.

I let the designer lead me, I didn’t take the time (which would have saved me a fortune) to really research what goes into a website that works. (Oh, this isn’t going to be a pile of hate mail posts to designers! I love designers! Mostly.)

I can pinpoint: with hindsight a lot of mistakes that were made, but I’ll focus in on three for you today, it may look like an ‘odd’ three to start with.

But stay with me, I have my reasons for going with these ones first. It will all become clear as you go.

Mistake 1. Where’s The Human Being

There is the very old marketing phrase ‘people buy from people’. That’s true no matter what business you’re in.

However many think their website is not the place to display ‘hey I’m/we’re human too!‘ They then churn out page upon page of boring, meaningless and unemotional pile of heehaw.

And it’s rife. Solo business owners do it, all the way up to the large corporations.

An example of a website not focused on a customer.

An example: “the most successful businesses are intuitive and strategic, articulate and measureable. XY Ltd is strategy, integrating planning and business information, seamlessly. XY Ltd executes and delivers results by accelerating the strategy. We deliver with impact, drive initiatives and capability”

Urgh!

No one talks like that in my life, yours?

Worse, are the ‘we are so smart and highly intelligent look at the words we have used here to impress you, we are the experts‘ type of pages.

Bore.

Bore.

Snore.

Or, the ‘Welcome, my name is Blah, we are based in Blah, here’s all about me, more about me, me, mini me, I have 10 years experience in blah. I trained with blah. I do blah really well. At blah, I have been blahing, for blah many years, and blah is what I do best. To buy blah just blah your details‘.

People Are Emotional

Not knowing diddly squat, that was how I created my first website, no emotion and plenty blah de blah-ing.

It’s painful to read, worse, it’s painful to write.

Neither wonder most folks struggle when it comes to writing content.

Your customers (people that breathe!) are driven by their emotions, they want to know that the person (that’s you) behind the website gets their pains and frustrations, hopes, dreams, fears, that you’re talking to them, and them alone.

That means, your website really isn’t about you, it’s about what you do for the person reading your site, and telling them how wonderful you are, doesn’t make it so.

How do you achieve this?

Study Copywriting

A great little introductory book I’d recommend is Write to Sell by Andy Marsden – it’s a good starting point if you haven’t been exposed to copywriting before. It’s not actually all about selling, the books really great at helping you focus on what you do, you know, the why, and the way it’s written leads you to think that you are actually your customer.

Write your pages, as if you were talking to one person, talk to them through you’re writing (or video.)

Basically, forget everything that you were taught at school in your English class when writing your content.

WHAT!

I know. Seriously, do the exact opposite.

Write So a 12 Year Old Understands Your Message

Your message being, your understand the people that you serve (you do, don’t you?), and how you can help them solve problems.

Another idea, check your website readability. The Flesch-Kincaid readability test was designed to say whether a piece of text was easy or difficult to read. On the web, for your human customers, it should be easily read. If a 12 years old can understand it, you’re on the right track.

(That’s not write to a 12 year old, write so a 12 year old gets it!)

If you need a tool try these: Juicy Studio, Using English or Words Count or there’s Perry Marshalls readability tool (wait for the pop up to disappear) although his newsletter (esp if you want to read great copy) is one to sign up for – that’s just my opinion, he is a great storyteller.

Or, use the Microsoft Word tool, if you have it. It’s inbuilt.

The higher the score the better.

(In a later posts, I’ll give you a list of sites to look at for folks that are doing this really well, jealous, moi, never.)

Mistake No 2. No Email Capture Form or a Reason to Come Back Again

Simply, my mistake was there was nothing like the sign up box on the right.

Oh, can I just say in my defence :-) that once I did learn a little, and knew that I needed one of those things above (optin form, it’s called), I couldn’t actually add it.

Why?

Because any changes I needed to make to the website I had to go through the designer (£££££!!!!!), so here’s another whoopsie to avoid (important): own your domain, own your site, own your hosting but I’ll go into that more in another post, seriously, six weeks I waited for an update. SIX weeks!

(Oh, and a ‘free’ site is not your domain, nor your hosting and you don’t own your site! We’ll talk about the pros and cons of free later.)

Remember people that come to your site have a problem, they need something, and they will ‘shop’ around. If you’ve done a great job of getting someone to visit your site, give them a jolly good reason to hear from you again.

You can do this by capturing your email address. Ethically.

(No spam, no shenanigans, respect privacy, say what you will do with the address.)

Here’s How That Works Online

A real life example: imagine you were out looking for a new pair of shoes.

You find a pair in the first shop you visit.

But let’s assume the sales assistants were ‘off’ with you, that the shop was badly laid out, they ‘snuffed’ you a little, you felt as you being in the shop was a major hassle to them, that you were putting them out, you left with a bitter taste and didn’t have a pleasant experience.

(Translate Above Online: a badly laid out website, everything all over the place, all about you, not about your customers, no clear navigation, no benefits of how you solve a problem, crappy fonts, funny colours, pictures out of focus, it’s like you entered the Twilight Zone, you want to get out of there quick.)

So you shop around. The second shop you enter has a great sale 25% off, but again they treat you like the first shop. They really do try and sell to you, making you feel awkward.

(Translate Above Online: trying to make the sale at first point of contact, getting someone to buy without them knowing you, your service, your product, the way you work. That tactic may not work unless, say, your Amazon!)

However, the third shop you enter is different. The sales assistant says ‘if you need help, I’m here, if you see anything you like we have a special reduction sale on today but I’ll leave you to browse in peace‘.

Curious, they have you curious.

Special? What special? How much special? So you ask, they tell you that it’s 20% off day, however coming up is a half price sale starting in three days, if you aren’t in an urgent need, they can put them aside for you.

(Translate Above Online: think of the websites you go back to time and time again. Are the helpful, easy to navigate, friendly, about you, do they give you the opportunity to ‘hear more’ or sign up for special offers, information, do they make it easy for people, are they real, genuine, do they actually want to help?)

Give people a reason and experience to come back again.

Add an email capture form to your website today if you don’t already have one. Try Mailchimp or Aweber.

Mistake No 3. The Bare Bones, No Meat, Sizzle or Useful Stuff That People Can Use

Without a doubt my first website had the: we’re experts, what we do, who we are, about us, contact us, how to buy us.

See the problem?

We and Us.

(Worse, it was just me! I used ‘we’ to appear bigger! Hard lesson. Be proud of the fact you’re solo, sure you don’t have to do it all alone, but don’t think that alone means not good enough.)

Use the word you.<——-IMPORTANT! Really Mega!

So it becomes: here’s what we do for you, here’s why we’re like you, how we can help you, how you can reach us, how you can get what we offer.

Basic, but a better start.

An astounding website would be a place where you can give people what they need, without having to pay for it.

WHAT!

That means showing people how to get the results they are after. And a blog is perfect for this, no matter what business you’re in. But we’ll get to blogging later in another series, let’s get the meat on the bare bones first.

You see, the biggest mistake I made with website number one, was thinking that I needed to create pages that told people what I did or (shame) sell them what I offered, so very wrong.

I swear I must have had about 40 pages of different types of courses they could buy — nothing to help them, just guff.

Basically, don’t do pages of guff. Guffing is out. Guffing is hard.

Want an example, okay, let’s say you have childblains, sorry children, and they’re on their school holidays. You’re going mad stuck about what to do with them, you want to spend time doing things at home for a week, but you don’t have many ideas on how to keep them entertained and you’re money is tight.

So you look online and you search for ‘things to do with your children at home’ or ‘activities for children on school holidays on a budget‘.

The first sites you visit are links to books, and things to buy. Then you end up on a site that has page upon page of really cool ideas, articles, links to other sites, freebies, a weekly newsletter and so on. It’s full of great information and ideas, and they are just giving it away to you.

What site will be the one you revisit? What site would you remember, when you have a little to spend?

Why does this approach frighten the bejeepers creepers out of most solo business owners?

Because they think that by giving information away people won’t need what they offer.

Nothing could be further from the truth.

Since I added the free confidence course to my site, it’s not only helped others, it’s helped me (thank you people who have signed up for it). People talk to you, they do get in touch, they ask for further help, the make comments, they tell you what’s goof and naff, they say what they liked (so you can do more of that), it’s a way of connecting.

It builds trust, you could be serving and making a difference now – if they do want to more, they’ll come back, if you give them (with no strings attached you hear me) a great experience first.

Are you thinking this won’t work in my business?

Again a myth. Every business owner has something that someone else needs (otherwise they don’t have a business!)

Not sure? Stick around.

‘Till next time, you can sign up above for further posts in the series. And for goodness sake, if you are well and truly stumped. Talk to me, call me for 15 minutes, you can do that here.

What lessons did you learn from your first website? Not built your website? What challenges are you facing?

Photo Credits: Hiking Artist (Know Your Customer)

Crappy Customer Service is Never Forgotten

July 20 Dawn

This is what I expected….

Customer service and client satisfaction are crucial for all businesses. And it’s vital to ask for feedback, but what if we don’t hear it?

A few years ago, a friend and I made a visit to (from their website) ‘ a prestigious Dining Room‘ in Manchester.

Imagine…dickie bows, blacks and whites, aprons, silver service, 1940’s backdrop and table decor, cups you couldn’t pick up with the extended pinkie, and of course saucers.

Imagine hearing, ‘certainly madam, as you wish‘ and the click of fine bone china and silver t-pots reflecting people eating cake.

Plenty of cake. Lovely.

Told that a table would be half an hour (buying psychology: ‘oh, it’s popular, busy, that means it must be really good‘), we were ‘placed’ and gently tucked into our seats an hour later.

Slighty peeved, we ordered.

Half an hour later the coffee arrived, one hour later our sandwiches (you know bread and a filling) and two hours for the creamy buns!

Total: 3 hours

On paying, I was asked ‘how was everything today for you madam’?

Me: ‘I think the service is appauling. I have no idea…(insert feedback and rant)…so no, it wasn’t a lovely experience.’

Their reply, ‘We don’t have enough staff today, it’s not usually as busy’.

Me: ‘Why ask for feedback if you don’t want to hear it?’.

Silence.

Lessons Learned

If you’re asking for people to comment, reply, get in touch, connect, leave their thoughts on your website or give you feedback:

  • Be prepared to hear what their experience was really like.
  • You opened the channels, you don’t have to agree but don’t leave anyone in silence, reply.

Be sure to deliver what you claim:

  • If you offer the ‘finest dining experience in the North’, you need to back it up with a ‘fine’ experience.
  • If you offer a ‘course that will get you all the results you want’, you better deliver.
  • If you offer a ‘free consultation for 30 minutes’ and your eye is not helping but focusing on the sale, you aren’t delivering what you offered.

Pure Eye Candy — People Are Smarter Than That

On the outside that dining room promised so much: decor, dress style, environment.

But the nuts and blots didn’t match, the systems weren’t in place to carry it through.

To do: identify where clients are first meeting you. Their first experience. Through their eyes — is what they seeing, reading, feeling, hearing a true reflection of you?

And lastly, crappy service sticks. That experience was 5 years ago! I’m still talking about it.

Your Turn: Have you ever experienced a service that made you change an aspect of your business? What has been the worst service you ever received? Please feel free to share in the comments below.

Facebook Alone is Not a Marketing Plan

July 6 Dawn

Here’s why…

Yikes!

That message appeared on my Facebook account today, okay it was just temporary unavailable ten minutes tops (maybe Facebook were adding Skype to my page first!), and not for one second did I think Facebook had waved the white flag at Google+, pulled the shutters down and closed up shop!

If you already know that Facebook is a marketing tactic, stop reading and go and update your FB status, this post isn’t really for you. Or stick around, I’d love your thoughts on this one.

First, I do believe that if you have a business, using Facebook as your business is a must, as long as you know the reason behind why you have decided to include it in your bigger picture.

Over a billion users, and probably a few tens of thousands more by the time I hit publish button on this post is a good reason to use Facebook, but is it a good enough reason why?

However solely relying on Facebook is not a good strategy…unlike your own website you have no control over what Facebook, well, what Facebook does with Facebook.

You don’t have a contract, no Terms and Conditions of service, no immediate help desk. They can pull the plug and all your relationships, content, shares, hard work goes with it.

You don’t technically own your page, Facebook does. No, honest it belongs to Facebook. You don’t own Facebook ;-)

To me, it’s like giving your content away to a third party, hoping that they will never lose or disappear with it, that’s a lot of trust in something you and I don’t even pay for.

As a plan, just Facebook is not a great plan. Neither is just Twitter, just Linkedin, just blogging, just a website, just social bookmarking.

I’m picturing ‘eggs, baskets, all in’, I don’t know about you?

I think a better strategy would be (including having own email list first or make it a priority): integrating Facebook (and any other digital media) as one of the tactics you use, that complements your website/blog and gives a richer customer/client/user experience. That the effort and hard work goes on your static site/blog .

The place where you do have nearly complete control over, the website you own and host.

I say nearly, because anything can happen.

Can you afford anything to be ‘temporarily unavailable’?
Do you have any thoughts? Opinions? Comments?

Why Perfectionism and Business Don’t Mix

June 28 Dawn

Why Perfectionism and Business Dont MixA man would do nothing if he waited until he could do it so well that no one could find fault.  John Henry Newman

Are you one? A perfectionist?

  • Do you want to be the person with the business that has no faults, blemishes and pimples?
  • Does the thought of anyone picking holes in what you’re doing, disagreeing with or not liking your ‘stuff’ whisk you up into a cold sweat?
  • Do you think your perfectionism is actually a strive for excellence in your business?

Yes? Keep reading.

No? Go and do something else.

Not sure? Here’s a test, I’ll hang on for you!

Why Business and Perfectionism Don’t Mix

  1. It can stop you ‘being yourself’, and people i.e. your potential customers/clients/prospects need to know who they are doing business with.
  2. It can prevent you taking a calculated risk, accepting a challenge and stepping up.
  3. It can kill your creativity and imagination because you spend the time defending yourself and observing your own success.
  4. It’s frustrating, it’s stressful and causes anxiety.
  5. It wastes time. So much time!

Let the battle commence…

I’m in recovery from perfectionism. Yeah, we’re all in recovery for something. This was (one of) mine. And I use the word recovery, because I’m not going to say to you that one day I woke up and I was completely cured from my affliction.

Weird, you’d expect an (ex) perfectionist to be perfectly healed, huh? Ha!

There are occasions when the battle continues.

It could be a new idea for a project, a workshop, a blog post, a piece of writing, a comment made on someone else’s blog, a graphic, a header, geez even a Facebook update or a tweet, sometimes the perfectionism lurgy can raise it’s head.

Recovery means that it’s a journey: most of the time (now) it’s not an issue, but some days I can fall back into the perfectionists behaviours, including the occasional negative mental chitchat that perfectionism feeds and thrives on. I’m not sure if a complete cure will ever be achieved. But at least the perfectionist days are well outnumbered. Mainly using the tips I’m going to share with you below.

But first.

Excellence and Perfectionism Are Not One and The Same

Here’s a gift for you…

Perfectionism is setting your own standards too high. If you don’t ‘make it’ then you come down harsh on yourself.

The strive for excellence is the setting of high standards and to accept that mistakes and errors will be made. No harshness, just learning.

See, BIG difference. I’d say a strive for excellence even sounds better!

A Little Psychology…

According to Hamchek there are two types of perfectionism ‘normal’ and ‘neurotic’.

Hamchek says normal perfectionists are always striving to do their best, they get a (healthy) kick out of putting in the slog to be near darned perfect.

Neurotic perfectionists never obtain satisfaction in what they are doing because in their eyes they will never be good enough.

I don’t know about you, but I don’t think any type of perfectionism is healthy (now). I can’t put together ‘healthy’ and ‘perfectionism’ in the same sentence any more. Mainly because of the stress and ill health it creates.

How To Know if Perfectionism is Screwing You and Your Business Up…

Try these…

1. How do you feel when you have made a mistake and it’s been seen by others?

  1. Perfectionists answer: awful, embarrassed, shamed, I must retreat for a few days!
  2. Non perfectionist answer: ah well, oops, live and learn!

2. When have you held back because what you were working on wasn’t ‘quite right’?

  1. Perfectionist answer: em, well, it wasn’t right.
  2. Non perfectionist answer: em, much better out there and seen, rather than on my desktop.

3. Growing up, did anyone have extremely high expectations of you? Do you ask them of others?

4. Do you get frustrated when things don’t go to plan, even though it wasn’t your fault?

5. Do you stop expressing how you really feel?

6. Are you a time waster?

Seemingly procrastination and perfectionism aren’t related. Perfectionism wastes time, because of the strive for no errors, mistakes, opportunities for people to judge. Perfectionists get a lot done, but never to the standard they are happy with.

Right, Are You Up For a Challenge?

Read this first:

According to research people who solve this puzzle in 5 seconds or less are more likely to reach their goals.

In the picture is a face.

All you need to do is find the face.

In 5 seconds or less.

GO!

 

 

 

 

 

 

Did you find it?

In 5 seconds or less?

Okay Here’s The Truth

There is no research, nobody has ever said people who solve this puzzle in 5 seconds or less are more likely to reach their goals.

Who were you competing against?

Yourself? The “research”?

If you didn’t ‘see’ it, how did you feel? Frustrated? Annoyed? Angry at yourself? Peeved that you never made the goal in 5 seconds? Not good enough?

Okay, transfer all that into other areas where you feel the need to be perfect. Unhealthy?

The perfectionists only competition is with themselves.

7 1/2 Tips to Ditching Perfectionism to Save Your Sanity

1. Hang out with people that will slap you…

Okay, not physical violence, that’s just wrong.

I mean, hang out with people that will be able to help you put a sudden end to perfectionism.

People that you trust, people who are good for you. People who are on the same wavelengths. People who you can send a quick email, pick the phone, have a call on Skype. Tell them you have the case of the perfectionisms! They will ‘slap’ it. Even better is to tell someone what to do before the call ever takes place (see No 5 below).

2. See it as the enemy, not your work

Today you can only do your best, and tomorrow your best will be better, and the day after that even better still.

Acknowledge that you’re ‘just being a perfectionist‘, one of the keys to any change is admitting it’s there in the first place.

3. Question your own beliefs

Perfectionism isn’t ‘out there’, it resides within you. It can only appear because of the beliefs you have. Revisit the people ‘mentally’ who put high expectations on you or who help you form your beliefs around perfectionism.

4. Set your own rules/boundaries

Start by saying ‘my best, right now, is good enough‘. You can only get better, the more you grown, learn, age, experience. Of course what you are doing right now may not your best in a few years time, that’s okay. That’s business!

Heck, that’s the core of business to be good at what you do and get better. That’s excellence in action. The perfectionist doesn’t ‘see’ this. They expect it all to be perfect now. I’d recommend you have a set of rules in place. Know what you will do when perfectionism is creeping in.

5. Know your own triggers

There is a great tool that called WRAP, wellness recovering action planning. One of the parts of the tool is to identify what you will do BEFORE the unwanted behaviour starts to occur, so you can nip it in the bud before it takes root. So for instance, I know that procrastination was a symptom of my perfectionism.

I had identified that ‘trigger’. That meant that I could nip it in the bud quicker.

6. Acknowledge your mistakes, get help on your weaknesses

Yes. That means saying ‘whoops I screwed up’ every now and then. Seriously, do you honestly believe people will not forgive you for making a mistake? Go back to No 3. This is a belief that just isn’t true.

7. Set realistic goals

That means goals that are within your reach and not out of sight. Sure, have the HUGG ones, (Huge Unbelievable Gigantic Goals) they are there to motivate and inspire. Internal motivation comes from acknowledging small goals every step of the way.

7 1/2. Put on the back burner the ideas and projects that you aren’t ready for, yet.

Oh, this is a biggie, but your business and sanity I do hope you ‘get’ what I mean. I’m not saying give up or don’t start. As a solo business owner you have that entrepreneurial ‘streak’ within you, and you’ll have the ideas, no doubt about it.

Get one thing done to completion, have it 95% to your liking and get it out there. You can tweak as you go. You probably also have ideas for projects, ask yourself honestly ‘can I do this now?’, do you have all the resources? Solo biz owners (in my experience) try to do everything all at once.

The door to burnout is aiming for perfection in every area.

The key to excellence is master one thing, then move onto the next.

Thoughts?

 

Genuinely, Are You Authentic?

June 24 Dawn

“The authentic self is the soul made visable” Sarah Ban Breathnach

Do you remember cabbage patch kids? They gave me the creeps!

What about one those annoying little Furbys?

Are you the proud owner of a Steiff Teddy bear?

And if you do have the  The Real McKoy (that’s Scottish-ness for the genuine article) version lurking in your attic, you’ll also have their Certificate of Authentication.

That’s the proof that they aren’t fake: rip offs, a sorry second on the real version, cloned alternatives, probably sold from the back of lorry.

But dodgy looking dollies, and annoying freaky furballs aside…

What Does Authenticity Mean to You?

Is it any of these?

  • ‘Be yourself’
  • ‘Be true to who you are’
  • ‘Sit in alignment with what you believe’
  • ”Be honest’
  • ‘Stand out’
  • ‘Own your own voice’

Authenticity has become a big word recently, especially in business.

Authentic simple means not fake.

Genuine.

Congruent: who you say you are, is what you are, what you are on the outside, is who you are on the inside.

To be true to who you are, not a copycat, or second rate version of someone else.

And I think, although the word is well said, the behaviour of the word isn’t, and I’m guilty as charged!

But I’ll get to that in a minute.

Why Is Authenticity Hard-ish?

I believe, it’s not because we can’t do it, but because it feels incredibly vulnerable and my second opinion is the word has been mucked about with too much.

It can be scary, frightening even, to ‘just be yourself!’

In business, to ‘just be yourself’ people may turn away not liking what they see. Deep down we may not want to share those inner and hidden parts of us that are reserved for the people that know us well. Hence it being vulnerable.

We may choose to hide behind websites, smart words, blogs and logos.

In my personal life, authenticity is a core value, and it is in business as well, but for some reason the early years of self employment it was a real struggle.

And if you can relate, that doesn’t sit well, does it?

You see if I had stuck with the core value, all would have been well. Sadly, I confused it all.

A few examples:

  • Updating my personal profile on facebook, easy. My business page, ages.
  • Using ‘we’ on a website, when it’s just me. Why? To appear and seem bigger?
  • Personal profile picture: airbrushed and professional looking for business and the real me on Facebook personal page.
  • Playing it ‘safe’ so as not to risk offending anybody.
  • Watching how others did ‘stuff’ and trying (and failing miserably) to replicate it in my business.
  • Lurking! Not taking part, just watching from the sidelines.

I did deliver what I said and promised, it’s the ‘soul made visable‘ part I’ve tussled with.

Faker You’re Spotted

When I was little my folks used to (I think) shop regularly at the ‘Fallen Off The Back of The Lorry’ department store!

This isn’t a sob story, just fact.

I knew no different, not until they broke. Or they were removed from me because of the lethal parts popping out. They only lasted so long before they fell to pieces. Although they were good copies, they still never looked or behaved the same as the ones that were original.

Does he need an introduction?

I’m not saying here that you must buy the best of stuff for your children (or risk a trip in a police car). This is just a metaphor. In fact, I only ever remember one toy from childhood, Mr Potato Head, he rocked and he was a cheap as chips, sorry!

Anyway, the metaphor.

We can only ‘be’ and ‘act’ in accordance to our own beliefs. We can’t maintain what we aren’t.

People begin to mistrust. People are smart, really smart. Can spot a faker a mile away. They shut down, shut you out, turn you off.

Is it not better to be turned off for being yourself, rather than turned off for what you aren’t?

I’d say yes. And it wasn’t until that penny dropped did authenticity in my business become easier. But this isn’t just for business it applies to all areas of life.

7 Ways to Earn Your Own Certificate of Authenticity

1. Go Back to Roots: Write down who you are and what you truly believe in. What are your core values? What will you tolerate and not tolerate? What’s your negotiables and non-negotiables? What will you do if they are crossed?

2. Where Have You Veered? It’s okay if you have, you can undo.What are you currently doing that ‘does not sit well with you’? Why are you doing it? What results are you hoping to achieve? Can you get the same result by being you?

3. The Real You. What do you stand for? What are the parts of you that you keep hidden? You don’t need to share it all, but with what you are hiding if anything, what’s your reason?

4. Why? Why do you think you have mistrusted your own self? What are you afraid that others may find out you? What do you fear might happen if you took the plunge?

5. Commitment. Promise yourself that no matter the challenge, the fear, the possible outcome that you will only ever be true to yourself. What does that mean? Stop copying (model is acceptable) others.

Easy to say, hard to acknowledge is the saying ‘the most intimate relationship we will ever have is the one with ourselves’. Commit to getting intimate. That means, loving all of you. Getting cosy with the good and not so good. What your struggling with, so are others!

6. Congruence. You are what you say you are. Accept that not everyone will ‘like’ what they see about you, it really doesn’t matter. Life truly isn’t a popularity contest.

7. Make a Promise. To yourself, nobody else. That you’ll never be the second rate version of someone else. That you’ll never try and copy another because you think there way (or them) is more valuable.

Final Thoughts

Authenticity is easy.

It’s our brains and fears that muck it up. Plus perhaps expecations from others. People will come and go, some will get you, some won’t. And it’s okay. You can’t appeal to everyone. But you can appeal to yourself.

Or, refuse to be authentic, sell youself up from the back of the lorry! Someone will buy you, but when they realise that they have bought into a fake I can pretty much guarantee they won’t purchase a second time.

Back to my original question…

Genuinely, are you authentic?

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