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Do You Find it Difficult to Sell ‘You’?

December 7 Dawn

You’re not alone.  Let’s look at it a different way — starting with business.  Every business has (or should have) a marketing plan, one that is easy to follow and clearly lays out what needs done, when and why.

What about marketing yourself, do you have a well thought out, do-able, fun, step-by-step plan, that is clear and concise?

Yes?

No?

Well done if you said yes! Hold on though, let’s back up a little…

If you said no, let me ‘help’ you feel better for a minute, did you know 49% of small businesses don’t have a plan of any shape or form!

Not even notes on a napkin! For some, it’s all ad hoc: sometimes a little marketing, sorry, advertising is undertaken (usually out of panic when there is no custom).

In my experience (working with local business owners), they say things like ‘I’ve put out few flyers and heard nothing’ or ‘I’ve advertised on a free ad site (Gumtree etc) and no calls’ or ‘we ran an advert in the paper, so far zilch’.  And sadly the approach many small biz owners take when putting out their ‘message’ has nothing to do with their potential customer, no, they make it all about them.

Okay, that’s business but what about you…

Sadly many job searchers apply the same tactics.  The difference is in language they say ‘I’ve sent my CV and heard nothing back’ or ‘I applied for 50 jobs online, not one has replied’ or ‘I called a number to an advert and nothing’.

Their search can also be ad hoc: applications and CV’s are sent out of panic (when the current job is painful enough to apply elsewhere), they apply the same method and information to numerous job adverts, and like in business they make their search all about them and not what problem they solve for an employer: they not have thought through their ultimate value of their offer.

I don’t think it would surprise you that many people ‘struggle’ selling themselves when it comes to job searching and applying.  (I’m not going to ignore the fact that ‘job roles’ are disappearing, more people are applying for the same position, which why it makes even more sense to learn how to sell you!)

Selling is not a dirty, rude swear word, honest.  The art of selling is ‘to persuade (another) to recognise the worth or desirability of something’ – in the case of the job searcher it’s your sole (only) task to persuade a hiring employer that you are worthy of being hired.  That’s it!

When it comes to marketing a business, brand, service or YOU, you’re ultimate goal is to make the strongest persuasive pitch of why ‘you’ are the best choice for an employer to ‘buy’.

1. Know Your Product, You!

No business owner in their right mind would market a product, service or business unless they knew everything that it does for a customer PLUS it’s weaknesses and flaws.

In order to sell yourself you have to know and be able to describe your ‘product’: who you are, what you do, your mission, your uniqueness, your skills, your attributes, your weaknesses,  the benefits of choosing you above others.

If you need help to figure this out, get it!  Even a friend who won’t put words in your mouth can help.

2. Tell Them Why You’re Unique

  • What is it you do better than anyone else?
  • Where in life have been your successes?
  • What’s your unique selling point?
  • What is it you need people to know about you?
  • How can you get that message across in everything you do?
  • What are you worth?
  • Where do you add most value?

In my experience many people miss this crucial step, it’s not a 20-minute ‘job’ when a form arrives or when you are sitting in front of monitor.

What happens is this, if you are vague about what your product does, you leave gaps or holes in the message you’re trying to convey, leaving the space for a hiring employer to fill in the details in their own head.  What a waste of an opportunity if they are ‘making up information’ that isn’t accurate (another reason why you should never leave gaps, questioning heads fill in the information.)

3. Know Your Customer (Employer) – Do Your Research

In business some companies waste time trying to market what they offer to everyone, the truth is not everyone is going to be interested in what they have to sell.

Do your homework for each and every position you apply for and work out if what you’re selling will appeal to an employer; in other words do you actually want to ‘sell’ to them?   Look online at a company, follow them on social media, speak to people already in the organisation.  Does the culture ‘fit’ your brand?

Will your product (you) actually be a match?  Many apply for ‘anything’ without even considering if they are the best match.  Seriously, you’re product may have flaws such as how far it can travel to work, caring responsibilities, times that can be worked etc.  I’ve seen many people take the ‘apply for anything’ approach and they get anything! A few months down the line they are incredible unhappy with what they got!  Do your research.

The ‘Sell’ is NOT About You

You may think because you are the one applying, it;s about you, which actually makes the ‘sell’ hard.

In all the steps you take, take ‘you’ out of it and focus on the needs, headaches, problems and nightmares of the employer.  They DO have one, otherwise they wouldn’t be asking for help!

When marketing yourself (online, off, via forms, CV’s) state how you solve the problems, be specific, and make yourself a ‘magic pill’ or formula to the headaches.

Day 7 Invent ‘Comfort Zone Poem’

December 7 Dawn

Comfort Zones, when did you last step out one of yours?

This is by the famous poet called Anonymous, The Comfort Zone Poem! 

I used to have a comfort zone

where I knew I couldn’t fail,

The same four walls of busy work

were really more like a jail

I longed so much to do the things

I’d never done before,

But I stayed inside my comfort zone

and paced the same old floor

I said it didn’t matter that

I wasn’t doing much,

I said I didn’t care for things

like diamonds or furs and such

I claimed to be so busy with

the things inside my zone,

But deep inside I longed for

something special of my own

I couldn’t let my life go

by just watching others win,

I held my breath and stepped outside

to let the change begin

I took a step and with new strength

I’d never felt before,

I kissed my comfort zone good bye

and closed and locked the door

If you are in a comfort zone

afraid to venture out,

Remember that all winners were

at one time filled with doubt

A step or two and words of praise

can make your dreams come true

Greet your future with a smile,

success is there for you!

 

Day 6 Letting Go

December 6 Dawn

“There are things that we never want to let go of, people we never want to leave behind. But keep in mind that letting go isn’t the end of the world, it’s the beginning of a new life.”

Do you find it easy to let go?

There is no doubt in my mind that 2010 has been a year of closing doors and letting go,  2009 (in hindsight) was 12 months of holding on far too tight, not willing (or emotionally ready) to let go. 

What about you?  Do you find it easy to let go?  When was the last time you said to yourself ‘in order to move, change, develop, grow I choose now let go’.  It doesn’t have to be an object:  it can also be a feeling, a way of behaving, a project or an idea. 

Letting does not necessarily mean ‘the end’.   It’s not giving up.  It’s a conscious decision, you are in control.

It’s paying attention to what your heart and your head is telling you.  For some they hold on to ideas, beliefs, values, friendships, relationships even partners when they know that the time has come to say thank you for the learning, time for goodbye, close the door and release.

If there is just one thing you need to let go of,  what would it be?

Are you able to complete it before 2011?

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Day 4 Invent Where’s Your Life At?

December 4 Dawn

We talk about ‘crossroads in life’:  the paths, the journey, the direction headed – how can you know where you are heading if you don’t know you’re starting point?

Think about it, you would never be able to plan a journey from A-B, without first knowing the destination of A!  

Nowhere is this more visible in the questions ‘what do I want to be paid for?’. Many don’t know their current strengths, skills, weaknesses, knowledge, information, expertise, abilities, passions and goals.  How do you know which direction to take, until you know the current surroundings? 

How do you discover where you are now? 

Here’s a few questions that can help you figure out where you’re at:

  • What motivates you the most? (NOT what do you like, what DRIVES you, what MUST you inclide in your life?
  • If you had to make one decision, what would it be? 
  • Describe in detail where you add most value, not what you do.
  • What does your current reality ‘cost’ you?
  • What has been your ‘finest hour’ so far? Is it a hint?
  • What fears keeps you awake at night?
  • What skills do you KNOW you have, yet others don’t yet?
  • If you could have a meeting with your ‘future boss’ who, where would it be? (It could be you!)
  • What do you know, that you excel in and could teach to others?
  • What opportunities did you let slip? Are they still available?
  • What do you fear won’t happen for you? Is it enought to drive you forward?

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Day 3 Invent Make a Decision

December 3 Dawn

When working with clients there is one stage of the process that is more painful to work through than others.  It’s the stage right before they make the breakthrough they want or the point before the ‘a-ha’ moment. 

It would be so much easier to ‘rescue’ and say ‘this is what you need to do next, then this, then this, then that’ (if their answers were obvious), big no, in a ‘typical’ coaching session that is extremely unprofessional and not part of the ethics (direct coaching perfectly okay!) It’s the indecision stage I’m talking about.  Not being able to make a decision is PAINFUL experience, it costs you big time… 

Make a DECISION:  there is so much power in deciding what is best for you.  Some people get it all jumbled up with PERHAPS or MAYBE, they are not the same! 

The meaning of decision is not ‘choice’. 

To make a decision is cutting off and detaching self from all other options.  It’s the conclusion to the process of weighing up choices.  You take the role of the wig wearing judge and you slam the gavel (judges hammer) down and have the final say. 

I’ve had friends who dragged themselves through torment on a daily basis because they could not decide what to do that day, then ended up doing nothing at the end, or dipped into 40 things and at the end day they were so disappointed with the no results.  

Imagine a life of the same quality…no decision = no result = ongoing disappointment!

Decision making is extremely empowering.  You call the shots, you decide that those other options are not GOOD enough and close them down.

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Day 2 When Doors Bang in Your Face

December 2 Dawn

Day 2 of Closing Doors – Invent 

When you are working on a goal, your plan and taking massive action and then all of sudden *SLAM* you hit a brick wall and doors are banging in your face from all sides.  You have choices: you can continue to bang solely on doors or you can find if there is a window to break through, a trap door to go under, a chimney to climb up…  

The following is an extract from Milton Eriksons (Hypnotherapist)  book ‘My Voice Will Go You’  

“I asked a student, ‘How do you get from this room to that room?’  He answered, ‘First you stand up then take a step…’

I stopped him and said, name all the possible ways you can get from this room into that room.’ 

He said. ‘You can go by running, by walking: you can go by jumping; you can go by hopping, by somersaulting.  You can go out that door, go outside the house, come in another door and into that room.  Or you could climb out a window if you want to…’ 

I said, ‘If you want to get into that room from this room, I would go out of that door, take a taxi to the airport, buy a ticket to Chicago, New York, London, Rome, Athens, Hong Kong, Honolulu, San Francisco, Edinburgh, Dallas, Grand Canyon, come back by limousine and go in the back yard and then through the back gate into the back door and into that room.’ 

In 2011 Close the Door on ‘NOT Seeing BIG, BIGGER, BIGGEST Pictures’…if there is one way, there will be a THOUSAND Ways to breakthrough!  

— Dawn

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