As I’m putting the final touches to the December Assertiveness Training Course, I’m reminded of the assertiveness rights. As far as I’m aware they orginally came from Manuel J Smiths book ‘When I Say No I Feel Guilt’.
Here you go:
You have the RIGHT
…to be treated with respect and as an equal human being
…to grow, develop and change not just today but every day
…not to get involved in my problems if you choose
…to be an individual
…to live your life as you choose, without approval or judgement
…not to feel guilty when you’re being honest about how you feel ...to take full responsibility, accountability for the consequences of your own behaviour and actions
…to choose who is in your life and the relationships you form with them
…to express your own feelings and opinions
…to live many roles in your life, in each you’re independent, you can make your own choices and choose how you want to behave
…to say NO and mean it (and say YES and mean it), if you then decide to change your mind, you have this right also
…to express your needs, wants and wishes and state what you want (howeverI know you have the right not to say yes.)
…to lead a happy, successful, safe life
…to privacy and dignity
…to state and choose when to be alone
…to make your own choices and make mistakes and never fear the consequences
…to seek help and support
…to live without fear, violence, bullying and other abusive behaviours
…to ‘be human’ and all that entails
Books on Assertiveness
A Woman In Your Own Right Anne Dickson Quartet ISBN 0-7043-3420-8
When I Say No I Feel Guilty Manuel J Smith Bantam Books ISBN 0-553-02268-7
Assert Yourself Gael Lindenfield Thorson ISBN 0-7225-2652-0
Self Esteem Gael Lindenfield Thorson ISBN 0-7225-3017-X
Games People Play Eric Berne Penguin ISBN 0-14-002768-8
What Do You Say After You Say Hello? Eric Berne Corgi ISBN 0-532-09806-X
I’m Ok, You’re Ok Thomas A Harris Arrow ISBN 0-09-955241 -8
Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway Susan Jeffers Century ISBN 0-7126-2555-0
You can buy these books here,
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