The world is always telling us to just be who we are because we'll be happier (hello, like we didn't know) and in the same breath, it says wait, not like that!
Once upon a time, you were, quite literally, and without apology full of yourself. Okay, you probably don't remember it, but you might have some recollection of it slowly being eroded away. Since childhood we've had to do a lot of fitting in, being liked, not rocking boats and line-toeing to do.
Hello you. I'm Dawn Barclay and this is Living Moxie. I'd love to help you commence deployment of the most authentic you that you dare to be.
Why? Because there is no replacement for authenticity. None. And if you've reached your life 2nd Act, you've probably come to that conclusion already, or lovely you probably wouldn't have found here.
You wouldn't have got this far
Aside: I know this is our first coffee date so to speak but I'm really going to go for it because it's that important even if what I'm saying makes you squirm slightly.
You were born remarkable. You remain so. You arrived confident, courageous, curious, brave, happy, joy, fearless, loved and magnificent. You still are.
Inside you are magnificence and greatness. You have genius within you. You do. I don't care if no one has told you before and it feels a little odd coming from a stranger. You have unique skills, talents, gifts and offerings for the world that you and only you can share.
I have no idea what your genius is. I have no idea what you want to share, to lead, to give, to offer, to create, to inspire.
It doesn't matter if you try and ignore it, it will niggle and nag you and take over your thinking, it'll probably be the reason you can't get to sleep at night, it'll keep prattling and whisper to you until you wake up fully and pay attention. How do I know? Clients and my own life.
Even if you're all flappy and floundering around right now, humming and hawing, stalling and stopping because of self-doubt and fear, it's still going to keep on going reminding you to wake up and pay attention.
So , what's stopping you?
It's not a trick question. I can probably take a few guesses.
It could be that you have reached this far and you still don't really know what you want. Some areas of your life may be tickety-boo, but still, still, there is a little niggle that you are missing something or aren't doing what you are (cough cough) supposed to be doing. So, you haven't figured it all out yet. That's okay. But is it resistance, do you actually know but what's stopping you is you have no idea where to begin?
Perhaps you have lost 'you' a little. Maybe you're realising the tragedy of how far you have traveled from your core and think it's too late to reconnect with it. That is simply not true, you may have abandoned it, but it hasn't left you.
Maybe you feel a little on the empty side because you keep thinking you've somehow wasted time and moments. Life seems to be going past you, and you didn't take the ride, you just followed the expectation of others. Perhaps you still don't know what you want to be when you grow up, or you have a little idea but feel you lack the information, knowledge, and resources to make it happen.
Perhaps you think your opportunities are limited and all behind you, and your potential may die along with all your hopes, dreams, and ideas. Again, not true.
It doesn't matter where you are at on this journey called life. Time doesn't matter. What does matter is that if you want to deploy the most authentic version of you, it can start now.
I have a plan, first, you have to decide. Then act. Maybe remove a few barriers and hurdles so you can move forward. Then keep going. Then some more. A wee bit further. Well, it's actually a life-long plan. A constant practice.
From my heart, or here's how I can help ...
The art of being the most authentic version of yourself begins and ends with you.
It all happens from the inside out.
You've got to be willing to plunge yourself into your life, take a long hard honest look at it and then decide who you are bringing out.
You've probably been on the verge of returning to who you really are for years.
And the journey - if you take it - may be uncomfortable, of that I have no doubt. You may want to give up. You may wish at times you had kept playing at it,: buy the next book and attend the next workshop but never do the work.
You may have to ask yourself to take leaps that you have been avoiding for years. You will be asked to remove your resistance and you will be required to move forwards even if you aren't guaranteed of the outcome you want at the start.
You'll have to swap what others think with doing what's right for you.
You'll have to give up your addictions: the people pleasing, the need for being liked and loved by everybody, the desire to seek out approval from others.
You'll be required to show up for your life, to be a presence, have a voice, share your work.
You'll be asked to become your own role model, to stop looking outside yourself for your answers and be done with the need to compare and compete.
You will need to begin on the inside, to step into your courage and confidence, to build a strong foundation of self-efficacy and self-esteem.
You'll be required to make decisions about your life and to accept that you do have genius, talent, skills and unique gifts.
You'll be required to own who you are, to claim your place in the world, to understand that what you do has an impact, it always has an impact.
P.S. But Why Moxie?
Ah. Good question. I'm pleased you asked because between you and me, a lot of people give me a weird look and ask, 'Eh? What. Say it again Dawn? Muxie? Morxie? Mixie-what? Oh, Moxie!'
When I heard it for the first time I whacked my knee on the corner of the desk to type into Google 'What does Moxie mean?' I got returned:
Moxie noun ˈmisɒksi': courage, confidence, bravery, boldness, spirit, fearlessness, determination, nerve, resilience ... in the face of adversity.
Moxie is a metaphor for all the shenanigans we get up to round here.
I believe it takes whack load of moxie to be who we really are in the world.