You know the type.
She hates her job, so she nips online and types into Google ‘I hate my job’ or ‘how can I change my career‘, perhaps she’s hoping the Internet Goddess will return the perfect answer to ‘help, my career is the pits, I’m so unhappy‘.
She goes clickity happy for a while and cruises around some of the biggy career websites, scrolls a few articles looking for the ‘answer’, then switches back to recruitment sites.
Some days she searches for work and roles in the countries where she took a three day cheap flight break, but gives up that because she would need to learn the lingo first (too much like hard work!) and she’s not sure if the doglet would like to move.
Click, click, click.
She’s soon back on Facebook or Twitter, she retweets and ‘likes’ all the positive images others have posted such as:
‘it’s never to late to be what you might’ve been’
written in big bold fancy text over the image of woman leaping across a beach dragging taffata behind her.
Obviously enjoying life to the max!
She wants to be her. She wants to launch herself into a Grand Jete or Sodacha (big jumps, ex ballet training, no, really) across empty sands, that’s the FREEDOM!
She types beside the picture on Facebook: ‘So true! Yesh! Waa (#the-most-annoying-word-ever) Hoo . I Love It!‘ and yet deep down she believes it is too late for her.
(In traditional Blue Peter Style. Here’s one I made earlier, just for you!)
Who can help her?
She’s so miserable, she wants the pain to stop, having to spend hours at doing tasks that shut her down and off.
She hasn’t got a clue where to begin, where to look, who to talk to, what she needs to do first.
Except the she here could actually be you. (And me at one point!)
And instead of really doing the work on you. You’ll do anything, a-n-y-t-h-i-n-g to get yourself out the current career reality and pain. The pain that comes with working in a career that no longer fits, suits or means anything.
People talk and deliver sermons ‘atcha (me!) about ‘paths’, ‘direction’, ‘roads’ but you have no idea what country you are in! How the hell can you put yourself on a path when you are lost without a map?
Of course, I’d recommend a completely different approach to the ‘Google Career Change ‘I’m Feeling Lucky’ Coaching Method’, like find what you love to do first.
But I know many peeps that stop here aren’t ready for that, or they can’t be fecked.
If the above is YOU.
Here’s a jolly good idea. One my my best!
Figure Out Your Shortest Route. Then Take It.
You need to ask yourself different questions, so you get different answers, which returns different results.
Answer this —> If you had to make a career move by the end of the week, what would you do first?
Would you write a CV, apply for posts online, or would you actually go 10 steps further and connect with the people who could help?
If you didn’t have to think about ‘is this the right time’, ‘what would others say’, or ‘do I have the confidence and ability’.
What would be the first thing that you would do?
Know what you would do first (if the shitz hit the fan) and do that, erm, 1st!
And I bet you cake and coffee your answer will be connections.
Would you announce to others your intentions?
Would you ask for people to introduce you to other people?
Would you know immediately what you need help and support with?
Leaping across beaches is great, but even taking that picture required help. So get yourself surrounded with people who could offer you suggestions, ideas and advice.
But. Another idea. Why wait? Why wait until you are in crisis mode to carry out the shortest path?
Do it now.
Ask for help.
There’s this belief that most people are too busy to help others. I swear to you that is not the case, people want to help people.
The shortest route, you see, is usually the path that’s already cleared for you. (Yes, you can commence slapping your forehead…1…2…3…Now.)
How can I help you? I mean it. (I’ve got time until my next photoshoot.)
Your Turn. Yes, You.
Tell me: when you’re stuck and can’t see a way through, what questions do you ask yourself? Any gems?
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