Are you still falling for the biggest con game ever?
A game which, until you stop playing it, is designed so you’ll never ever win.
A game you started playing very early in life.
The systems, rules, expectations of your next move were in place before you even took your first breath.
From the moment you were born you were given a hand to play, whether you wanted to take part or not.
The game is still being played, with the old rules, if you allow it.
Or you can throw in your hand, quit, and start over, this time on your terms.
The Game by it’s design and systems has resulted in most people living:
- In uttter misery
- Lost
- Scared
- Fearful
- Stuck
- Empty
- Passion/Purpose/Meaning-Less
It bothers me that people feel more disconnected and lack a sense of belonging now, more than anytime in the past.
Is it any wonder that more and more people are turning their back on systems, rules, regulations to live a life with meaning and purpose?
You may feel that you’re the only person who is questioning, you’re not.
Did you at one time think you could achieve anything?
When did you stop believing that were true?
When was the day?
The time?
Where were you?
Who were you with?
What! You don’t remember?
You don’t remember something that big?
Of course you don’t. When you entered the ‘game’ you weren’t even thinking for yourself. You didn’t know any better.
The Rules of The Game
The ‘Rules’ of the Game are simple and (for many here in the West) can include: go to school, study hard, go to college, study hard, get a ‘good’ job, work hard, build a career, work hard, add into that the other ‘norms’: find a partner, get a house and settle down, have/have not children, progress through career, retire, then sit back and enjoy life!
According to the game, the rules are clear. Don’t try and rewrite and rethink the systems, they are there because they ‘work’.
Really?
You and I both know (because you’re here), that’s not true, the old rules don’t apply anymore. Not to everyone.
Remember: in utter misery, lost, scared, fearful, stuck, empty, passion/purpose/meaning-less.
When it’s (the game) questioned (by you, me, others seeking a life of purpose) you’ve probably found to play your own rules comes at a price, how dare anyone step away from the ‘norm’ and start to question!
Why is it a con?
Because you”ve been taught and conditioned that the above ‘way to live life’ was the correct (and only) way.
And there’s no correct way. There are no rules.
You may not believe that 100%, that’s okay and thank goodness, I don’t want you to just accept all that I’m saying.
That’s the way ‘The Con Game’ game’ works, not me.
The Con Game wants you to just ‘follow the norm’ and not step away from the herd‘.
It would rather you didn’t question.
Think about it for a second. Think about all the people you know or aware of (alive, dead, famous or not) who decided to stop playing the ‘Games’ and questioned the rules. Were the mocked, ridiculed, rejected, made to look odd and ‘not normal’?
Did people comment and pass judgement because they were different?
When you do ‘normal’ most people are un-normally happy, when you step away, oh, most people get uncomfortable and always have something to say.
Oh, the ‘Game’ loves that.
A sure guarantee that many of you who try to break barriers and boundaries will return back to the herd: not because it’s better, because it’s grip is stronger than you realise.
Some did question and step away and made a complete hash of it. History tells us that. But some stepped and changed the entire world for the better, they stepped out because they believed in why they were stepping. Their passion blasted any fear.
And in case you’re wondering this message of mine is not about giving the world a two fingered salute or narcissm.
No, it’s the exact opposite.
It’s about saying no to fear. Embracing life, living empowered (and being empowering) stepping up, being passionate and loving the ride.
It’s about being inspired and being inspiring.
It’s about sharing, connecting, spreading value: your unique value, whatever the hell that is.
Remember this site is about Radically Rethinking and Redesigning Life and Work, and that could mean re-questioning everything that the ‘Game’ has led you to believe (currently) about what’s possible, for you.
And it may mean unlearning a few things.
Sure, you’ve probably had really good happy times, got some wonderful memories, and no doubt successes along the way. Geez, you’re human.
You probably don’t hate every part of your life. (Maybe you do, I don’t know. Oh gosh I do hope not.)
The Rules Are Built To Grow Your Fears
In my professional experience, most attempt that ‘way’ or The Con Game Rules before they come to me.
They actually can’t do anything but play it (me, you, everyone has taken part), when we leave our first systems (education) we are put in another (the workplace.)
By the time I talk to them they have no idea who they really are, they do know they’re unhappy, hating what they ‘do’, sick of playing the waiting game (after school I’ll do this, after college I’ll do this, when I have a month off I’ll do this, when the children are bigger I’ll do that, when I’m happier in myself I’ll to this, when I have more confidence I’ll do that, when I feel good about me I’ll do this)
…and what’s funny is The Con Game has gripped you, it’s got you just where it wants you, the systems it designed are all set up to make sure you have to wait. The game knows, because you have been so well brainwashed you’ll wait until all conditions are perfect.
For example:
- You can’t let allow yourself to fulfill your wildest, craziest dreams and ambitions, because you fear looking stupid.
- You can’t allow yourself to really work at your love, because of the games rules on ‘economy’ and money, it had you caught there when you believed ‘settle down’ where that really means ‘mortgage’.
- You can’t bring yourself to really be who you are because The Con Game doesn’t like it when people step away from it’s rules. Ever been ridiculed when you have stepped out? There you go then.
What Happens When The Game No Longer Fits?
Ha! Well, you might get depressed, feel stress, you could rely on drink, food or a line of the white stuff to help you through the waiting.
You could punish yourself, have crappy relationships, or you may take your frustrations and anger out on those closest to you, you could shrink (become a smaller you, not physically!), get angry, be full of guilt, pain, negativity, be your own worse enemy.
If you know what I’m talking about above, you’ll know exactly what you did to take part in the game that was forced upon you.
So what can you do?
First, accept that The Con Game is designed to shut you down.
I dont mean switch you off…down.
You, operating at a lower level:
- Have you ever felt you’re just getting by? Or that you live groundhog days?
- Do you play the work systems and feel time is speeding up?
- When you laugh and are totally in the flow of life, does your energy rise? Erm, do you feel alive?
The con game is to make sure you just get your head down, follow the rules, work hard, and never question.
But.
Questions arise.
You Were Free-er Once
You were ‘free-er’ before you entered The Con Games systems: school being your first ‘placement’.
The Con Games ‘School’ element taught you what to learn for exams, it didn’t need or want you to think, because the ‘system’ was already designed so you just had to remember.
Where’s The Good News?
It does sound heavy, doesn’t it?
It’s about questioning. Not lying down to the messages of ‘this is the way the world is’, or ‘some have, some don’t', or ‘they were born on the luckier side of the street’. It’s nonsense.
You know, my work is about inspiring you to live with passion and meaning.
We all aren’t going to be the next Steve Jobs, or Richard Branson. We probably won’t give the next ‘I Have a Dream’ Speech, we all won’t be the next ‘Gaga’ or ‘Beyonce’. Not because we can’t, but because they are not us, you have your own work to do.
Are you getting this?
If you’ll let me, I want to help you find that, to live with that passion.
To find your own rules.
Where Do You Start?
There is plenty here but keep looking, you aren’t alone wanting to create a different life. There’s plenty messages and lots of information out there to help you redesign work and life. I’m not an ego maniac, nor do I (just another human being) have all the answers. Keep searching.
While you’re here. It was my intention that nobody left empty handed.
I don’t know where you are currently at or what your life looks like.
You could have the confidence but don’t have a clue where to begin, you could have plans but lack the confidence. Or, simply you don’t have a clue where to begin?
It could be that you’re toe-dipping, you might be scared to even consider being who you really are, never mind follow your passions and live with purpose.
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